(Closed) Family heirloom used as engagement ring

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 107
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Buzzing bee

papayagelato :   “If you don’t have an assumption about my language ability, then you would’ve suggested it, no?” – Nope. Again, there’s a difference between an assumption and a suggestion. 

“…why immediately language barrier but not cultural barrier?”
Because I’m reading what you’re writing (writing=language), and commenting specifically on your ability to understand and respond to what someone else was writing. This isn’t cultural, it’s intelectual and lingiustic. 

Hope this helps you understand the rationale behind my thought process. 

Post # 109
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Buzzing bee

papayagelato : You obviously didn’t understand my point in any way. Which, ironically, was my point to Fitzy in the first place – not to engage with you because you were either willfully misinterpreting what she said, or were unable to comprehend her point. Now you’re talking complete and utter nonsense again, without saying anything meaningful. 

You asked why I brought up a potential language barrier. I explained that I did so because you seemed to be having trouble understanding the written word (Fitzy’s). Saying that my point is invalid becuase I didn’t ALSO bring up that you might ALSO have a cultural barrier is neither rational, nor does it address my point in any way (and essentially changing the subject certainly isn’t “academic”). 

And with that, I’m taking my own advice and bowing out. No sense arguing with someone who is either being purposefully argumentative for no reason, or who can’t comprehend the argument.

Post # 110
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Soon2bmrs1 :  Here, let me do for you what I did for Fitzy earlier in this thread, because it does seem to me as well that OP is either willfully misinterpreting what people are saying or unable to comprehend the point. 

Case in point:

That post was originally “Sigh. He didn’t make a threat […]”.  OP went on the attack with Fitzy without reading what she said carefully.  OR there was a language barrier and she confused the two words.  Both are reasonable possibilities and the latter is arguably more charitable than the former which is what Soon2bmrs1 :  went with. 

Post # 111
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

papayagelato :  I happened to be an anthopoligist and my specialization is in linguistic …  I won’t go into details here, language is shaped by culture, vice versa, they go hand-in-hand. I do understand your though process now, I am appraoching this from an academic stand point and you are not.

Fixed for you, as follows:

I happen to be an anthropologist, and my specialization is in linguistics…I won’t go into details here, [however,] language is shaped by culture, and vice versa.  They go hand-in-hand.  I do understand your thought process now–I am approaching this from an academic standpoint, and you are not. 

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Look, if you’re going to say to someone “Ohhh, I get it now, you’re just not an academic and I am”, like you did to Soon2bmrs1 :  you’ll get some condescension in return.  I normally don’t like to be THAT person, but you were the one who put the focus on being “academic.” 

Post # 112
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Buzzing bee

camenae :  *clap, clap, clap* Exactly. Thank you. 

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