Post # 1
Hey all, I haven’t even begun wedding dress shopping yet and already am having disagreements with my Mum and sister on what dress I like. They basically believe there should be NO cleavage showing at all and therefore I should wear a boat neck style dress.
I dont want my boobs out but I love a bit of cleavage and love the V neck style dresses as that is what I would generally wear as a style on dresses when I go out.
I love styles like the below and I am not particularly boobie – I do wear a small C cup.
What advice do you have for dealing with family and their expectations on what I will wear? I want to wear something I feel comfortable and beautiful in and I am afraid I am going to get pushed into something covered up because they have this vision of a ‘virgin bride’.
Post # 3
I LOVE this dress! Definitely take your mother/sisters with you when you try it on…once they see you in it and how tasteful/gorgeous you look they may change their minds (my mom actually ended up liking me in far more revealing dresses than I ever would have wanted!) Good luck!
Post # 4
Right now you are worrying, and arguing, about abstractions – your ideas about dresses that you haven’t actually tried on yet. There’s kind of no point to it until you go actually try on some dresses and find one you like. You might surprise yourself and end up with something totally different from what you expected – that’s happened to lots of Bees. In any event, if you’re going to have to fight for your dress, at least save your energy until it’s an actual fight over an actual dress.
It might be wise to go shopping without your mom and sister, too, if you think they’re going to give you static.
Post # 5
It’s your wedding, your choice! That dress is gorgeous in the picture, btw. You might want to remind your “mum” that you aren’t 10 anymore, you’re a woman and an adult who can make her own decisions.
Post # 6
I had a similar situation. My mom and sister were kindred in their thoughts about dresses and had absolutely no disagreements when they went shopping for her dress a number of years back. Unfortunately, the only thing my mom and I seemed to be able to agree on was how much we hated any dress the other person liked. (She’s into beading and sparkle whereas I’m all about lace and fun details.) Eventually though, I found the dress of my dreams and wouldn’t you know it, my mom can’t seem to imagine me in anything else now either!
I guess what I want to say is this: Don’t give up or give in, but also don’t be too stubborn to try on a dress that’s not you. I did that a few times because I knew it would make my mom happy (even if I knew I’d never actually buy it/wear it on the big day). In the end, I’m wearing the dress I chose. I just lucked out that my mom loves it almost as much as me 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks for the comments girls! Glad to hear it is not an uncommon experience and I just need to hold my ground when the time comes and buy what I love! Until then I will refuse to chat with them about what dress we may hypothetically get to avoid any conflict!
Post # 8
Be careful who you take dress shopping, because they might gang up on you, and then you’ll wind up with something you don’t want, or mad, and unhappily leaving the store. Happened to me.
Go dress shopping with someone who supports what you like.
Post # 9
May I ask who is paying for your dress? I think you should have whatever dress you fall in love with, but your approach might differ based on who is footing the bill 🙂