(Closed) Family in the bridal party

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor but only because we are very close, I wouldn’t have had her in my Bridal Party if we weren’t. I have a little sister as well and she isn’t in my Bridal Party because we aren’t that close and she is only 11

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Shekema07: have you talked to your mom about it? That would be tough, I have such a hard time saying no!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i have two of my sisters in my bridal party, my FI’s sister, and my FI’s brother’s Girlfriend. I felt bad not having any of these girls in my party, so i chose them. Now, i regret it becuase i didn’t have room for my best friends that i would love to be involved. but i felt bad having my FI’s siter and not my FI’s brother’s girlfriend. i know… prob. pathetic. sad thing is, i am not really too close to either of them. i just hate hurting peopel’s feelings.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My family is very tight-knit, so my sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor and my brothers are both standing up with Fiance (he’s an only child, so he was really excited to ‘get some brothers’ and the 3 of them are pretty close).

I don’t think you have to include her (especially if there’s some estrangement or huge issues), but if it’s just lack of being best friends, I’d invite her to be in the bridal party. You don’t need to make her Maid/Matron of Honor or anything, but having a place up there will hopefully mean a lot. Weddings make people very sensitive, and she (and your mother) will likely remember this for a very long time if you don’t invite her. She would have to promise to be supportive and cooperative, though, but I really think the gesture will go a very long way and not asking her will create more problems. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Shekema07: My co-worker is getting married in October and is feeling the same way about her sister. She is not going to have her sister be in the bridal party. I say do what YOU would like, but keep in mind that there may be certain repercussions that follow if you do not involve your sister :-/

Fiance has a younger brother and he would definitely like him in the bridal party, but he feels sort of obligated to have him as his best man even though he would rather have his best friend be best man.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I have three sisters and two brothers (along with two brother in laws and a sister in law).  I have never felt required having my sisters or brothers in my wedding…I always HATED being a bridesmaid the two times I was in my two sisters weddings, and I didn’t want to inflict that on anyone.  My sisters and sister in law still really want to help with planning (their words, not mine lol) and I think a few of them prefer not having to buy a dress and shoes and all that.  My youngest and oldest sister have always been closer and I have always been closer to my middle sister (though I’ve really started hanging out with my younger sister lately).  I made the other “middle sister” my maid of honor…she’s kind of the point person who will get everyone together for shower stuff that I don’t help plan.  And I thought it would be nice to have at least one person stand up with me…but that’s it – I’m only having one attendant.  My brothers and brother in law are going to be ushers and help seat the old people and will be getting a colored tie from me.  I’m really glad my mother is all about saying, “It’s your wedding, do what you want.”

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m not close to either sister, but their both bridesmaids, partly because it was expected of me by family, and partly because I had a HUGE falling out last summer with my best friends, who were supposed to be my maids of honour.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@heatherrobyn:

Wow that’s a bit of a streatch, your Fiance brother’s Girlfriend and you’re not even close to her. 🙁

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Shekema07:

You say you are close to her, eventhough you don’t see eye to eye, so if there isn’t a major rift I think you should def have her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. You may not be as close to her now but when your ages even out a bit and she grows up you may become super good friends and she won’t be in your pics.  At least you know she’s gonna be in your life forever. Have 5.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I included my family even though I am not close to them.  I feel as though my wedding is a huge part of my life and I want this opportunity to become closer to my family and FIs family.  So far, we have not become closer, but everyone is really excited and honored to be in the BP!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, but we’re best friends. And other than my other Maid/Matron of Honor, she’s the only one who stood by me when I need her, despite me turning my back on her. Anywho, I say the decision is up to you, but in time there’s a good possibility you and your sister will grow even closer, and you might regret it.

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