- 10 months ago
- Wedding: City, State
When I think of my wedding ceremony, I imagine my two brothers, godmother, close family friend, and future cousins standing on my side of the aisle. My boyfriend thinks this is weird and a cop out for finding close female friends (I am notoriously introverted).
I picture my middle brother (20-something) doing something like walking my mom in, escorting her to her seat, and standing in my line next to my MOH; my youngest brother (preteen) would have responsibilities somewhere between a ring bearer and a bridesmaid, depending on his age when I get married.
I see my “aunt”/would-be godmother (not Catholic but you get the relationship) as a Matron of Honor or similar honorary role standing close to me. And a second close family friend who I’ve known since my teen years as another bridesmaid.
I imagine my boyfriend’s three female cousins as bridesmaids (one of whom is special needs and would need to sit during the ceremony but would be psyched to walk and be in photos – she is vocal when she gets excited and this would happen if she was in the party or not). My boyfriend’s cousins are lovely and I think they’re great; they’re exactly the type of people I like to have close to me. We are all within five years of each other, we all get along really well and I like them as people. It feels natural to imagine them standing next to me, I would like to create a memorable experience for all of us to share as we become family.
Specifically for my partner’s special needs cousin, I imagine her dad walking her down the aisle instead of a groomsman and sitting her down when the ceremony begins. He will be able to calm her down if she gets too excited, and her medical condition will most likely prohibit her from moving out and getting married, so I think she and her father would appreciate those photos.
I have no opposition to having some female friends in my bridal party, but I’m not a fan of excluding family to do so. I’ve never had lifelong friends as I’ve moved a lot, and I believe I would regret looking at my wedding photos and seeing a bridal party full of women who are no longer in my life. (If we get divorced, I probably wouldn’t enjoy looking at any of my wedding photos, and having his cousins in my party wouldn’t be a top concern.)
Also as a side note, I’m not emotionally attached to a traditional bachelorette party, I would probably have a volunteer day with my squad.
With the configuration listed above, that would put 7 attendants on my side (6 standing, 1 sitting).