(Closed) Family Input

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well I don’t know about advice but I’m kind of in the same situation. I’ve posted about this before but my mom is getting divorced from my stepdad so she’s all negative and uninterested in the wedding, Future Mother-In-Law is also uninterested (only FI’s grandmother asked about the wedding at all when we were at the house for Easter, so that made me feel like crap) and my dad and stepmom are also out in lala land. I have been told to view this as a “good thing” so I can have “free range” and do what I want, but it just seems like no one is excited, or taking my wedding seriously.

Honestly, if it was me in your shoes, I would just stop running the ideas by (which is what I have done with my mother). If she asks, I say something vague. If she was to press for details (again, no one has), I would just say very clearly “well, FH and I have already decided to do X.” If she complains after that, simply say “I’ll take that into consideration” then promptly discard that info from your brain and change the subject. Good luck to ya!

Post # 4
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You can tell your mom it won’t go to waste – I intend to give my centerpieces away after the reception so they don’t wind up in the trash, and so people can still enjoy them awhile longer!

As far as advice, I had to do this with my sister – she loves planning with me, but gets offended when I don’t like her ideas.  So I had to start refusing in a calm and nice way, like “I appreciate your advice and would love to look at your suggestions for bridesmaid dresses, but I need you to respect my opinion when I say that something doesn’t match the general look I’m going for.  Can I show you some pictures of what I’m looking for?”

Hope that helps!

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