(Closed) Family Invite Drama

posted 5 years ago in Guests
  • poll: Should I invite my uncle?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 2
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would invite him.  If you want to invite your aunt, you have to invite your uncle.  It’s also not cool to invite some aunts/uncles and not others.  

    Post # 3
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    9519 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    They are a unit so you have to invite both or neither. Although your mother can call him prior to the wedding and warn him that if he starts to make offensive remarks about the wedding at the wedding then he will kindly be “asked” to leave. Your male family members can keep an eye out for it

    Post # 4
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    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

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    theatrejulia:  +1

    Ultimately, you have to decide if you want your aunt that badly because you cannot invite one without the other. I may be biased but I don’t do the “they’re family” outlook anymore in cases like these. Everyone has their own tolerance policy though. No right or wrong. I would definetely have someone look out for him and kindly have him removed if causing a scene as theatrejulia said if you choose to invite.

    Post # 5
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    4037 posts
    Honey bee

    My daughter had a smaller wedding – hosted less than 100. Neither she or her husband invited one uncle/aunt couple, from each side. I don’t know what the story is, on his side, but the MOG didn’t supply the uncle’s name or address. On our side, we don’t even have the uncle’s address. The only communication my husband has with his brother is to exchange one birthday e-mail, each year. In his case, it’s his wife who’s has the entitlement/attitude problem and is impossible to be around (without fighting the urge to strangle …).

    Post # 6
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    319 posts
    Helper bee

    Agree with mobx2 you don’t have to invite anyone you don’t want. Maybe you can talk to your aunt and say you feel uncomfortable withnher husbands behaviour and see if she is willing to help control him. if she gets mad at your honesty at least you tried to give her reason rather than just excluding her. she will likely get mad anyway if you just don’t invite them so at least this way you tried.

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