Post # 1
I’m just venting/pmsing.
We made the decision this year to see both sides of the family on Christmas day so that its fair for everyone. This means we will be spending the day in 3 different states. Our house early morning, my moms late morning/early afternoon and BF’s mom’s late afternoon/evening. It will be a LONG day but we will still have 4-5 hours with each family which we both think is fair.
Both families knew about the plans and agreed, and now just days before the guilt trips are starting. My mom is complaining that we are all “leaving her” for the night. BF’s mom (who NEVER wants to spend time with us anyways) is complaining that she “wishes she could see us for more than a few hours”.
I’m already going insane. We are also hosting xmas eve for another part of the family, and the day after christmas we are driving 3 hours to visit even more family.
Post # 3
You could really make it very easy on yourselves if you invite the family to you. That just seems like a LOT of driving and running around over the span of 3 days. Good luck!
Post # 4
Is this your first Christmas together? Many years ago I got tired of doing no less than FOUR Christmases every year just to satisfy everyone and we started taking turns. Families will still be disappointed, but only on rotation, so it’s still fait to everyone and way less wear and tear on you. At some point Christmas has to be about what you and your SO want to do, not about being dragged all over by what everyone else wants you to do. Or you could do like Stephin suggested and work your own home into the rotation as well. That’s what I’m doing this year. 🙂
Post # 5
@stephinPA: I have already decided that we are doing that when we have kids haha. Right now it won’t work though-we have elderly grandparents who can’t travel, siblings with children who shouldn’t have to travel just for us, etc. Even though it would be nice, it doesn’t make sense for everyone to come to us.
@deliciousappleblue: It’s our 3rd Christmas together but the first time that we are trying to visit all families on the same day. I agree, at some point it will be about us as a family (probably when we have kids) but right now its sort of whats expected of us. Even though it’s driving me crazy its not worth having either family mad at us.