- 7 years ago
I hope some can offer advice; this has been causing anxiety levels to increase, when it should be nothing but a happy time for all involved.
Major Players: Me (MOG, age 50), my parents (ages 70/72 GILs), my sister (age 40).
Minor Players: Brother & Girlfriend (ages 48/38), Brides family, Grooms family (ex-husband of mine, plus his wife, and various grooms relatives).
Situation: My sister. I love her because she is my sister, however, I do.not.like.her.at.all. Period. No ifs-ands-or-buts. She is manipulative, a hypochondriac, refuses to work, except for a few months, then finds some mysterious “illness” where she ends up in the hospital for a few days, and of course gets fired, but she works long enough to collect unemployment. She 100% abuses and finds loopholes in “the system”. She’s a drama queen, she’s always a victim, and everyone else is at fault for her entire f***ed up life.
IF you attempt in ANY WAY to point out the absolute truth to her – she will start rumors about you, call you the nastiest names, and becomes the ultimate victim. This is her history.
A year ago she said she has a brain tumor. This past May it was “POTS Syndrom”. A few years ago she has to have some kind of shots in her neck because she has a pinched nerve (and can’t work of course). Before that, she has some vein in her leg that is causing her to have heart palpatations – oh, and of course she can’t work there.
Sister makes absolutely sure she tells everyone she is a Christian, but don’t get on her “bad side”, every other word in an email is F YOU, or F THIS! Hmm, real Christian like.
When her ex-husband got remarried a couple of years ago, he wanted to take their daughter with them (his new wife has 2 children). My sister said he could only take their daughter IF he bought her a passport too, paid for both daughter & her flight, put her up in a hotel, invited her to the wedding – it was down in the Islands. So, daughter didn’t go.
NOW.. with all that backstory – HERE is the problem.
Sister has majorly abused my parents – especially my mom. I’ve seen her get up in my mom’s face and scream horrible nasty words. Sister was evicted a few months ago from her own place; so, Sister moved in to parents. Again. *sigh* yes, mom & dad have dependency issues. Pisses me off, they just keep doing this over and over. Sister will eventually kill parents – I am serious. Relatives agree, but parents refuse to stop being victimized.
MAJOR PROBLEM: Sister is the type who will walk up to complete strangers at my son’s wedding and spill a bullshit story of horrible nasty lies – to make herself look like she is an angel. I really, really want to sit sister down and tell her “This is how you will behave at MY SON’S WEDDING – and if I see you step out of line you will be escorted off the property. You will sit down, shut up, smile, be pretty and that is all. If I see you making any kind of scene, if I see you snooping through anything, you will be sorry you did so.”
(My sister will go around asking how much stuff cost, why did the bride & groom do this or that, or give a fake laugh of “oh, how pretty” – but it is fake. Bride to be met Sister ONE Time and her reaction? She said “I don’t want to be rude, but I don’t like her, she is so fake and ugly inside”.) DING! DING! DING! We have a winner!
Oh – and as a real twist in all this? My sister hates, absolutely HATES my brothers Girlfriend – why? Because brother’s Girlfriend stood up to my sister and SAID NO to something she wanted. My sister went nuts/balistic and in front of brother’s children and GF’s children started off screeching calling brother & gf sluts, cheaters, bastards, you name it, she said it.
Preference is to have Sister not at the wedding, unfortunately – that will not happen. My mom & dad agree that my Sister needs to be told to “butt out and keep out”.
*sigh*… this is supposed to be a HAPPY TIME.