(Closed) family issue…help

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Worker bee

Yikes, you are in a pickle.  I guess there really is nothing to do about it except deal.  Maybe he will be nice for a day (LOL) maybe you can just ignore him, or call your grandmother and explain in detail a little more how you want it strickly girls and stick to it.  

PS: He sounds like a piece of work. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Is this the same grandmother who’s trying to guilt you out of buying a house so you can take care of her?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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1234qwerty94:  I love “girl’s day” dates with just my Mom and my Grandma. They don’t get to happen often so I can empathize as to how this is a raincloud on your parade. My first thought was – give his ticket to someone else! Is there another girlfriend or female relative that you wouldn’t mind having with you at the wedding fair who doesn’t already have a ticket? If so, they can buy the boyfriend’s ticket off of your Grandma and he can be let down easily – “Sorry HisName, this one’s just a girl’s day!”

Post # 7
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Worker bee

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1234qwerty94:   Id make a phone call to her and explain how you wanted 3 generations of ladies o nly, tell her your going to do girly things and dont think its a good idea for him to come.  You will be better off because do you really want to go shopping with someone who is going to belittle your father and annoy you on your special shopping day? it will turn out a disaster.  Get your mother on board to help you settle this ASAP

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

It sounds like your grandmother really doesnt care about what you want. πŸ™
Sorry bee this is tough. Can you talk to your mom about it, maybe with her help you can figure this out. 

And if he does come, stand your ground. Do not let his nasty attitude dampen your experience.

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

I can imagine he’d be bored out of his mind, if they’re like the shows in the US. I’ve been to one, and the male attenders were few and far between (mostly husband’s to be and a few FOB). I couldn’t wait to get out of there myself.  

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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1234qwerty94:  Ugh, that is a pickle. Sorry bee! I don’t get why he would even want to come?!

But if he does then those places tend to be packed, could you just lose them in the crowd? Your grandmother screwed this one up, is he controlling or is she just oblivious?

Or you could send him some brownies packed with laxatives. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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howdoyoudo:  +1 on the laxative brownies if my other suggestion doesn’t fly

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Would it be possible to get your mother to tactfully intervien?

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

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1234qwerty94:  UGH, sorry Bee. It sounds like you’ve already brought this up with your grandmother and emphasized that you watned it to be a girl’s day, and she blew you off. I’m not sure what else you can do at this point, except maybe ask your mom to handle it? If your mom has a closer relationship with him, maybe she can talk to him about it?

I imagine the fair doesn’t last all day. Could he join you for breakfast before the fair and then dinner after the fair so that he’s still participating in the trip without actually going to the fair with you?

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