(Closed) family issues… asking price of dress, just rude in general…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ok, first off, your aunt was rude by asking. I would have told her sweetly that it “cost enough to make me feel fabulous” and then changed the subject.

Secondly, your aunt was just saying stuff. This doesn’t mean that it was true. I’d write a letter or card back to the person stating that you’re sorry that they’re unable to join you for the wedding and hope to speak to them very soon. 

Weddings make people do very crazy things. And it’s hugely stressful for family – especially family who don’t get along very well anyways (my family are currently engaged in a huge battle of the wills, it’s been going on for a while. I haven’t spoken to some of my aunts in almost a year and on top of that FH’s family have decided they don’t know me well enough to know if they can support our marriage. After knowing me for 3 years. Families are weird). Try not to take stuff too personally (I know this is hard) and focus on the fact that at the end of the day you’re marrying your FH and everything else is just icing on the cake.

Post # 4
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

The price of your dress is none of your aunt’s business.  You could answer with it was exactly what I expected to pay and leave it at that.  As far as the father figure friend of the family you should give him a call and ask him why he can’t attend.  I am sort of wondering why you didn’t call him before hand though.  If he is that close to you I would think he would know about your wedding before you sent the invite or at least that you were engaged.

Post # 5
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

littlemissmo gives brilliant advice 🙂  my Future Mother-In-Law used to do that to me until I started saying “I don’t know how much it cost, myparents are taking care of that” or “so much Ineed to take out a second mortgage!” just don’t answer the question directly – you don’t need to explain your finances to anyone!  What a bloody cheek – no wonder you’re pissed off xx

Post # 6
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1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I agree, I think it’s very rude to ask about the price of the dress.  I know people will be asking me and already have and say it’s a secret and that it’s for me to know.  They’re not paying for it, so why do they care, it’s only to judge.   

Post # 7
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2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

if you aren’t close to them anymore then just don’t invite them.  you should surround yourself with people who really care about you on your wedding day!

Post # 8
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216 posts
Helper bee

I agree with above!!! Just because they are “family” –if you have no real relationship with them, haven’t talked to them in years, and don’t think they treat you well.. why invite them?! I would only want to be with people who care about me on my wedding day. Even if that means only have 20 guests!

 

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