(Closed) Divorce- Too much drama!

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Amsy28:  Oh boy that totally depends on the individuals!  Some don’t have any drama, some drama is over by the signing of the papers, some just hold on to issues and don’t know how to move on with life.  It just depends.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Depends on just how ugly things got…I find this equation to be helpful:

(# of Years together) / (# of Years of Unhappiness) x (Ugliness Ratio) = Time to Get Over It

Ugliness Ratio Scale:

1.  Enlightened – Things don’t always work out, we’re still a family.

2.  Relieved –  I’m a saint for putting up with what I did, thank god it’s over!

3.  Hurt –  I never saw it coming, how will I ever get over this?

4.  Spiteful – I’m going to take my ex spouse for all they’re worth if it takes a lifetime!

5.  Insane – Ever seen War of the Roses?  It’s like that without Danny Devito running around.

For example, your folks were married 25 years, your father was unhappy for 7 of them and after blindsiding your mom they divorced.

(25/7) x 3= 10.71 years

Hope that helps!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Nona99:  I find this pretty hysterical.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Frankly, never.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

well, my DH’s parents have been divorced for about 29 years and it’s still ugly at times.  sigh.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it depends on your parents, and how badly do they want to move on with thier lives?

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What do you mean by normal and what sort of drama? It is 20+ years since my parents divorced (after 20+ years of marriage), and they still don’t like being in the same room as each other. A big reason for the hard feelings is the divorce wasn’t friendly, in fact my father left her for someone else.

They tolerated being near each other for their children’s weddings, and a couple of other occasions (funerals, christenings), but most of the time we (their children) keep them apart. For Christmas and birthdays we always see them separately. I’ve just adjusted to life being like that.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My husband’s father and mother got divorced like 15 years ago. It still hasn’t simmered down.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My parents got divorced when I was 1. My dad was still taking my mom to court when I was 22 regarding stuff that was in their divorce agreement. I will NEVER hate someone as much as those two hate each other. It is just sad. I still would not put them in the same room building together.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

it depends on the circumstances and the level of craziness on either ide of the family. honestly with my parents devorce i will probably wont hear the end of it until the day i die becauese wel… to put it frankly it was just one giant clusterf**k

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Nona99:  You’re hilarious.

@Amsy28:  I’m so sorry about all the drama. I hope everyone calms down and starts to behave well again soon.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Amsy28:  If you don’t mind me asking, why is this a cause of drama? Your mom is an adult and can do that if she wants (though she must be about my age and the last thing I’d want to do is get pregnant again, let alone another 20 years of parenting). In her defence, if she was going to have another child she had to hurry up.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I divorced my ex a year and a half ago and he told my so he will never get over it. I am remarried and he doesnt know. I am dreading the day one of my sons call me to tell mr found out. He was abusive and very jealous. My sons have to lie if they spend any time with new husband and me. I don’t see us ever being able to be in the same room with each other. I actually very nervous going back to my hometown because I am afraid I will run into him. My sons are spending Christmas with hm, not because they want to but because he is emotionally unable to move on. I wonder about funerals that will happen.

It’s very difficult for all involved. I hate putting my sons through the juggling act and I am always willing to take the back seat because I initiated the divorce. This is the first Christmas ever I will not be spending with my sons.

So……I don’t see it EVER being normal again.

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