- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I’m not sure if I’m looking for advice or what. I just so happened to find out somethings about myself today that I never knew (but more on that later)… Well, I was at a cousin’s birthday party today and spoke with my aunt privately about the issues I had with my step-mom. (Aunt initiated the conversation). It’s pretty well known in our family that my sister and I have had several issues with her since our father’s death last year. Here’s some background:
Anyway, today my aunt told me I should try to talk with my step-mom to sort out our issues because ‘it’s what your dad would have wanted.’ I really didn’t think my relationships (or lack thereof) are anyone else’s business, but I listened to her reasoning. During this time, my suspicions were confirmed: my entire family believes things about me that are entirely untrue. Here they are:
1.) I only want money from my dad’s death.
This could not be further from the truth. I have not once even thought about or mentioned receiving any money. What I did say is that I have nothing that belonged to my dad and would like something, like a baseball hat or one of his possessions. Apparently, though, I’m only out to get money.
2.) I didn’t speak to my dad for the last six months of his life.
Complete BS. I went over to visit him during the day when he was home alone or out in a public place. I also would text him or call him. I guess that means I never spoke with him.
3.) My sister (Step-mom’s daughter) wasn’t invited to my wedding.
I got married in April and texted Step-mom IN OCTOBER asking if Sister could be in the wedding and to discuss what kind of dress I wanted her to wear. This is the reply I got:
“We’re going to be out of town the week of your wedding.”
Okay. So, I kind of dropped it. I wanted her in my wedding, but what was I going to do? Kidnap her?
Everyone wants to talk about me, but no one actually asks me anything. They only want to gossip and talk shit about my mother who, according to them, was jealous of my step-mom and gave up custody of my youngest sister who lives with her. (Neither is true). I’m sick of being treated like an outcast while everyone in my family things Step-mom can do no wrong.
I’m so pissed, confused, and upset. I’m not ready to talk to her. I’m not really sure what I’m looking for here… I think I needed to vent. Any advice would be appreciated, though.