- 6 years ago
My cousin is getting married this year and, while I am excited for him, am still quite angry about what he and his Fiance did on my wedding day. They RSVPd and then cancelled 5 hours before our wedding,as he got really drunk and was hungover and unable to make the drive to our wedding. He is a 30 year old man…not 18. As I have a small family, I was very excited for them to attend as only my immediate (mother, brother, etc) could come and all other family out of town could not make it/didn’t want to come due to it being my second wedding/etc.
They didnt call, email, they facebooked me the day of the wedding. As brides, yes, our emotions run high the day of the wedding. The week even. I was at my wits end. I was so upset they FBd me this instead of picking up the phone and trying to reach me. Also, I had to pay for their plate anyhow and I am on a tight wedding budget. they didn’t send a wedding card, didn’t call to apologize. I sent them a message on FB in response to theirs, and said I was mad-upset that my family would do this and that they knew my wedding was the next day, a hangover…..really???!!! I am always driving 6 hours or more to go visit all of them, it has been like that for years. My brother and I talk about this a lot-we are annoyed that we are always the ones driving and taking the initative to go visit, keep in touch, when they NEVER, and I mean, NEVER come to visit.
So, with all this said, I get an envelope in the mail today. I thought-maybe they sent a nice card congratulating us, and an apology…(okay, I was really reaching there)…but nope-it was their wedding invite, which (according to FB) was sent after my wedding as the bride to be posted she was sending the invites out.
I am beyond annoyed. IF I didn’t have so much of the history (always going up there, etc) I probably would let this slide…but I am still too hurt.
So how do I RSVP gracefully no? And am I being petty or what do you think I should do in this situation? This is NOT a forgive and forget in my books.
PS-Oh, and I love that they sent two registry cards in their invite, just so I know where to buy them a gift…spending more of my hard-earned money on them when none of them seem to care about me or my kids…. (rolling eyes)