(Closed) Family looks at me like I'm crazy because of my wedding/dress style.

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You should keep an eye on BHLDN’s sales, cause they might have something you like. 

 

I think you need to stick to your guns, and put on the wedding that you want.  People are insensitive, and don’t understand that different people have different tastes.  YOU understand that, which makes you, well, a better person.  

 

I think your colors sound fabulous…what does your venue look like?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You’ll pull off something that you feel comfortable in so get whatever you want!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Randy from SYTTD says that if you are mature enough to get married, you need to be mature enough to have the wedding you want.

Picture yourself with a white veil that covers you head to toe. None of those remarks can penetrate your veil. Just smile and say” Thanks for the suggestion. I will take it under consideration”, then do what you want.

Many bees have posted about less than supportive comments from family and friends before the wedding, which were totally reversed when they saw the vision come to life. at the wedding.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think that everyone goes though this problem with family and sometimes even friends. They always got something to say don’t they? Just like all of the girls on here told me. “it’s your wedding, you do what you want to do” You can’t please everyone & I’m still learining that. I like the 1st dress too!, very different. & i’m sorry your going through a rough time with your planning. Good luck.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think any of those things you wrote sound crazy in the least bit! In fact I am pretty sure I sid most of the same things myself. I too had issues with my wedding dress. I tried on 100+ dresses and none suited me well eough for y liking. Finally, at a store where I thought would be my last option I found 2. My mother looked at me strngely and rather harshly insisting that I didn’t need two.Honestly I think I like two because they were pieces in each of what I wished I couldve found in just one dress! But I put my foot down and purchased the two dresses. I was tired of having someone else tell me what was right or wrong. I knew what I wanted and went for it. My mother accepted it and is finally seeing my vision and is running with it. Thankfully! LOL. Stand up for your vision, you will be happier in the end if you do.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

People bring all kinds of expectations to weddings, you just have to roll with it and be excited about what you’re doing, no matter whether it fits their ideas or not.

From the way you describe your ideals and criteria for a gown, you might really enjoy checking out gowns at a Brides Against Breast Cancer event, if there will be one near you between now and your wedding. Their mission seems to fit with your sense of social consciousness, and I had good luck with them finding something that fit better with my style sensibilities. http://www.bridesagainstbreastcancer.org if you’re interested in checking them out.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your wedding should reflect who you are and your vision of what you want. I too am of a Bohemian nature (except I am simply an OLD hippie) and frankly the dresses you posted are not all that non-traditional. You may want to look at some Nataya dresses if you are really going for a Bohemian look and many wedding dress designers now have Earthy/Bohemian styles now-a-days. I wouldn’t worry at all about what your families think about your style of dress, wedding colors, decor ideas, etc. Tell them that they can choose any style they want when they are planning THEIR weddings. This one is yours and FI’s. Smile sweetly, ignore the naysayers, and then do what will make you happy.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I know it doesn’t help, but I get it…that teal dress is SO yummy!!

Can you stop telling people about the wedding? I know it’s hard when they ask, but it just sounds like your families don’t understand the vision. Or do you have inspiration photos you can share with Mom, for example, to help them understand. Deathbydesign had similar wedding colors, and it looked fabulous-check out her recaps.

Eventually, family does come on board. It can be a slow process, though. My Mom could not get over that our invites, which I designed, had GEARS on them-we’re getting married in an industrial museum, so it’s perfect. “I thought wedding invitations were supposed to have FLOWERS on them.” It’s sad when people try to force their expectations of what a wedding should be on the couple. Keep to YOUR dream…at the end of the day, it really only matters what you and Fiance think about it.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I can see why you like your current dress crush. It’s your day, you’ll know when you’ve found the right one

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You sound like you have amazing taste, as opposed to those that want you to go with hot pink and glitter, Yuck! just ignore them, heaps of people didnt get my taste until it was all put together and then I got so many compliments after, like it was the nicest they had ever been too. 

Just dont listen, be confident, and no deep down inside that you have taste……and they dont, lol!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

by the way that first dress, is one of the nicest ones I have ever seen, if you can afford it you should so get it!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I completely understand why you like the things you do (I have mustard yellow and teal in my wedding colours too!Along with apple green and dark purple)! I’m all for whimsical, I much prefer it to glitter and diamonds! Stick to your guns, I think you’d regret it if you changed anything to suit other peoples tastes.

Have you ever looked at Claire Pettibone dresses? (Those dresses are SO beautiful, they are expensive but you could probably find used gowns). *goes and finds some photos*…

p.s. I LOVE that dress you posted!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Here’s the BEAUTIFUL Flora:

Madame Butterfly:

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