(Closed) Family made us an offer…

posted 8 years ago in Money
  • poll: Move back in (FH included) with aunt and grandma?
    Yes; it'll help you save money for the wedding : (8 votes)
    7 %
    Maybe... : (11 votes)
    10 %
    No; the cons are impossible to ignore : (45 votes)
    42 %
    Not just no, but hell no; you need your independence : (43 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
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    1872 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Oh no, honey–you can’t do that. Is this the aunt who insists on calling FH “boyfriend”? But either way, the separate beds, the religious differences, the paranoia, the cats…

    I think you’d be saving that $500 and putting it directly back into therapy.

    Post # 5
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wouldn’t. Especially cause of the crazy. You’re planning a wedding – you know that if you moved back in potentially everything would change and honestly? There’s enough mania with just planning without adding in family crazy to the list. But it is a super sweet offer, and it’s obvious she just wants to help. But if I were you then I wouldn’t. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    90 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Honestly, I wouldn’t do it. I know I’d be tempted by the money, too, but it sounds like you could get yourself in pretty deep with a bad situation. Sure, while you’re there your aunt could go back to work, but what happens when you move out again, you know? You have a different life now, so I would just enjoy that and tell her thanks but no thanks. You need your space, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

    Post # 8
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    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If you’re regularly dropping $500+ on rent, moving in would save you $6K…that’s a pretty good chunk of change.

    On the other hand though, the living situation you describe sounds pretty stressful and I’m not sure you can sacrifice your mental health for a year to save money.

    If it were me, I probably wouldn’t do it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I wouldn’t either.  It may sound okay now but I think it might end up being more stressful than you had thought. 

    Post # 11
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    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    It really doesn’t sound worth it, if those are the conditions. On the other hand, I’d still tell your fiance because he deserves to be part of the decision. I’d be annoyed if I was him and wasn’t even consulted. I definitely can’t imagine living under those rules at this point in my life, but I moved out of my parents’ house almost ten years ago so it’s been awhile.

    Post # 12
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I know money can be tight these days… and weddings can get expensive… but I love our freedom and I wouldnt put a price on that, ever!! I say don’t move in!

    Post # 13
    Member
    299 posts
    Helper bee

    I would look at getting rid of a car before moving back into that situation.  When Fiance (then BF) left the state for school for 9 months, I went back to living with parents full time, to save money.  My parents offer about the easiest living situation available and it was still horribly stressful.  It sounds like you’ll be going into a really tough situation… No, I wouldn’t do it.  Switch to public transport, get another job, anything else.

    Post # 14
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    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Even though it sounds good, I don’t think the money you would save is worth the headache.  It could even shake your relationship up.  Why risk that for a little money?  (I’ve been there, and the money WAS NOT worth it!)

    Post # 15
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    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think that it would be way more trouble than its worth. If you left because you couldn’t stand the crazy anymore, that environment is not what you should put yourself in on top of everything else.

    I wouldnt do it.

    Post # 16
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    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I voted “HELL NO.”  Doesn’t sound like the $500 a month you’d be saving would be at ALL worth it when compared to the daily stress and annoyance you’d be dealing with. 

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