(Closed) Family member dilemma..i really need advice! (Family member with mental illness)

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 4
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

How does she feel about living in FL? Is it the drive itself, the move, or both that are concerning her? Furthermore, is she seeing any kind of doctor or counselor for this condition?

Post # 5
491 posts
Helper bee

This is probably a dumb question, but is she already on anxiety meds?

Do shorter car rides bother her? Maybe you could kind of gradually go on longer trips in the car and see how she does?

Post # 8
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Hmm – I don’t have much good advice because I’ve never been in a similar situation – I’m sorry you have to deal with this though, it must be very stressful!

My mom is extremely extremely wary of travelling so when she was forced to fly somewhere she asked her doc for meds (I think he gave beta blockers?). She ended up actually having to “test them out” at home before she worked up the nerve to travel. If you can convince your aunt to try some new medication, maybe something similar? I know you’re not supposed to take medication when you don’t need it, but maybe if you can warm her to the idea of trying new meds (whether they be sleeping pills or not) and let her try them in a controlled environment (i.e. have her take one before you go for a long drive), she’ll be less anxious?

Wish I could help more.

Post # 9
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@WbeeGirl:  What you described also sounds like panic disorder with agoraphobia which is fancy for people who are afraid to do certain activities because of the fear of a panic attack. (not saying that’s what is going on but it is a possibility)

Honestly, there’s not much you can do to convince her otherwise. Generally when people have severe anxiety or panic attacks people will a have behavioral therapy to help reducing the anxiety surrounding the activity. Therefore, she needs to work with her therapist on the panic attacks she’s thinking she will experience during this potential move. Often times when people have anxiety or panic attacks, they realize their fears are not rational and they need to do X but the fear is so great they still avoid X. 

ETA when people have a panic attack or disorder the panic attacks come out of nowhere so it is completely uncontrolled

I also do not suggest changing up medications because medications take a long time to start working and some do not mix well together. For example, most depression meds take at least 2 months to start working. 

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