(Closed) Family member getting engaged shortly after I am

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I KNOW THE FEELING. Fiance and i have been together for 6 years we got engaged in february. Low and behold his cousin got engaged right after. ( had only been with girl a year or less). I was fine with it until he had the nerve to say they were planning for the same month. Thank goodness she is catholic and couldn’t do the ceremony until the next september. hehe I think Fiance was annyoed because he is the oldest grandchild and his step cousin kind of stole the thunder.

Post # 4
Member
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I know exactly how you feel, and it’s okay to feel that way. Two weeks after we got engaged, my husband’s cousin popped the question to his girlfriend of like 8 months or something, and they’re incredibly young, and no one thought it would last (just FIY, their marriage is already on the rocks, not even a year later). 

In the end, there’s nothing you can do. Just keep your wedding details to yourself, and go with the flow. Act courteous and excited to keep the peace, and you’ll be fine. We got over it shortly after because there was nothing we could do about it.

Post # 5
Member
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It’s not wrong to feel that way, I think most of us have in that situation. But there really is nothing you can do about it, however you can always vent to us bees!

When I got engaged, 2 weeks later my Future Sister-In-Law went out and bought her own ring and announced that she was getting married in 6 months, she stole all my ideas and color scheme as well. My other Future Sister-In-Law got engaged almost a year after us and is getting married on our one year anniversary. And now my 2nd cousin just got engaged (literally a couple of weeks ago) and is getting married the day before me. My poor Fiance and having to listen to me vent LOL

Post # 6
Member
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Whatever you do, while you may be excited do not share details! This is the hardest lesson I had to learn, I would talk out of excitement and since we had a 2yr engagement I have had people steal my ideas and use them for their wedding which have already taken place.

Post # 7
Member
7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I know how you feel.  What a bummer.  I sort of asked my sister to not get engaged until after our wedding.  She said that wan’t a problem, so I think her Boyfriend or Best Friend (luckily) was more interested in marriage than she was.

Post # 8
Member
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it SOUNDS bad, but I totally understand. I got engaged the same day as a friend. She actually got engaged first, early in the morning and I did late at night. I felt like all our mutual friends were over the whole, “look who got engaged” buzz. AND I think she was pissed about it too, but what can you do!

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