(Closed) Family member is dying. How can I or anyone else enjoy a wedding at this time?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Happy7:  I’m sorry about this, and I hope the next 72 hours are better for you than today has been.

I don’t have much advice for you on how to proceed with the scenario, except to visit your cousin and ensure he knows you’re there with him. People have a way of knowing these things, even if they can’t show it.

Post # 4
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14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

((HUGS)) I am so sorry about your cousin.  Maybe you should talk to your FH and your family, together you all can make a decision on how to best handle this.  I think that the knowing that you are putting everyones feelings to the forefront will make it easier for them all to celebrate for you.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My prayers go out to you and your family and may all of you receive the comfort you need in your hearts.  🙁

A week before my wedding, my great-grandmother passed away.  She was the baby of the family and everyone adored her.  I felt awful when I found out (I live far from home), and everyone was devastated.  I felt bad about my wedding (I really wanted her to be there :(), and talked to my family about it, but they all told me not to worry.  To my surprise, after the wedding, everyone was happy that they could all be together (the whole family) and celebrate.  They said it helped ease all the sadness.  I hope you and your family can seek that union and joyness during your celebration as well.  

Post # 6
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576 posts
Busy bee

I’m sorry your cousin is so sick, and that your family is having to go through this. Be there for your cousin and the rest of your family as much as possible, but don’t feel guilty for being happy that you’re getting married either. Your cousin wouldn’t want you to be upset and sad, he would want you to enjoy this time.

I hope things turn around for him. Please keep us posted.

Post # 7
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3501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2002

im sorry you are going through this. not to jack your post or talk about myself, but my (then) FI’s dad went into the hospital 7/20 because he couldnt feel or control his left side so we thought it was a stroke but dr’s said it wasnt.. he was still in there and things got worse, he ended up dying 8/9. two days before our wedding. the day after our wedding we had a visitation and then a funeral. we cancelled our honeymoon when he was just in the hospital because we didnt know what was going on and i was so bitter, but the truth is it just sucks. i still get sad thinking about how my (now) husband didnt get to have his dad there. but to be honest with you, the wedding still went off without a hitch. we cried at the rehearsal and the dinner, i cried the morning of getting ready – my heart just broke and ached. but ceremony & reception was a true celebration for his life. many people praised us for how we handled it and how the day went with all things considered. absolutely miss my father in law and wish things were different. just want to reach out. here for you girl. xxo. & itll be okay, promise. youll get through. stay strong!

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