(Closed) family members in bridal party – etiquette when asking?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I formally asked my Fiance sister, and she was estatic ( granted shes is 16 atm but sure) and I asked my little brother to be one of FIs groomsmen, but the four of us are really close.

when you ask them be sure to include the word “we” like “we would love for you to be in the bridal party”, to the ones that you are not close too. 

I told my borther ” I want you to be in the bridal party. Don’t whine, mom said.” lol

Post # 4
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Have you considered ignoring popular convention and having your family stand on your side (and vice versa)?  We talked about having my brother on my side and his sister on his side.  I didn’t know his sister (met her twice in 3.5 years – she’s mostly lived overseas) and felt that if Fiance wanted her, he ought to ask her and have her on his side.

Post # 7
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Tigrrlily04: I kinda like the idea of putting them on your own side and because they are opposite sex you could line it up so that they walk together!


But if you’re not keen on that idea then I would suggest you and the fiance speakphone dial them and ask them together with a whole lot of “we would like you to be in the wedding party” 


Good luck and congrats!

Post # 9
13248 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I asked my FI’s sister to be a co-Maid of Honor (sharing with my sister, since they both live far away from me!) and made a small scrapbook with the last page asking her.  I put photos of us together and family photos through the whole book with quotes about being friends/sisters.  I asked her to not open it unless I was on the phone with her.

We ended up Skyping while she opened it, and it actually made her cry because she was so excited.  Even though we aren’t necessarily close, it was a big step to making us closer and I’m thrilled that she felt so honored to be asked. 

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