Post # 1
So we are about 3 weeks out from the wedding and I just got an interesting text message from my mother.
First thing to note, my side of the family isn’t super close. We’re close with my grandmother but not really anyone else. In fact, many of my family members I haven’t even met before. It’s not that anyone hates each other we just all live in different states and haven’t really made the effort to stay in contact with each other. I grew up this way and “adopted” my aunts and uncles etc. so I really don’t know any different.
Anyway, so my dad’s counsin (who lives out of state) called today (keep in mind I’ve never met the woman) and ended up talking to my mom. Apparently she’s decided she’s coming to the wedding and bringing her 16 year old granddaughter. Now because I’ve never met her we never invited her. Now she wants to come and bring her granddaughter ummmm ok.
Now it would be nice to see everyone and our numbers for reception are fine but seriously? You wait until now to say something and now for a family reuion?
Post # 3
I’d say Cool, bring all you can and by the way, here’s the bill….
Post # 4
Ehhh some people are so rude~!
Post # 5
On the one hand I would be pissed, on the other hand this relative wants to know you. Budget-wise if you can’t afford it or there’s no wiggle room definately tell this person that they can’t attend. At the same time if you do have the extra room and have already had some no’s that you’re stuck paying for then I say take the chance to get to know a relative.
Post # 6
That’s a little awkward, but you should be flattered that so many people want to come to your wedding, even though they’ve never met you!!! The rule of thumb with planning parties, at least in my family, was to add 10 to your reserved number, because some people have no respect for the rules of etiquette, however I understand that it’s an additional cost for potentially wasted food…I guess since it’s family the best thing to do is mention to your mother that your all full up and it’s too late to add, so that if she does recieve another Last Minute Mavis, she can tell them that thing have been finalized…
Post # 7
In some ways I guess it’s ok and I’m happy that my grandmother gets to see her niece but in other ways I’m thinking is a wedding the place to have a family reunion?
Post # 8
NO a wedding is definately not a family reunion. 2 ppl is not that bad but if you open that door to those 2, be prepared to be opening the door to others….
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
@missbumblebee: Not cool.
No offense, but if you haven’t ever met these women, they’re not concerned at all about YOUR wedding, they’re using it as a reunion/free food. Your Mom should call them back and say sorry, but no. If they haven’t bothered to meet you in 20 plus years, your wedding’s not the place to start- if you let one do this, expect more to.