(Closed) Family members snotty about ring choice? Any experiences like this?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Ignore her. You’re the one wearing it! The only people who need to approve of the ring and you and your Fiance.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I have a Moissy and my brother went around telling people that it was a “fake diamond.” That was as bad as it got. 

You might want to have your SO talk to her, privately and politely, to tell her to cut it out… just in nicer terms, of course.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

She probably won’t know any different, tell her it is whatever she wants it to be “oh yes dear SMIL, it’s a hearts on fire diamond, I’m surprised you couldn’t tell!” lol I’m just having a laugh to myself bc I dealt with an ex’s mother( just bf) that gave me similar stress, I wish I had said some things! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Once at a random bathroom at a restaurant. But I still wore my previous antique style engagement ring my Fi proposed with. The woman I was talking to in there had a really big rock, and basically looked down on my petite diamond ring, she basically said that they sparkle so much even though the stones where so tiny. She said it with a condesending voice and had that look. She looked pretty snottty too.. I just smiled and waved it off. And she started talking about what a loving Fiance she has that spent that much on her ring. Smile and wave, ignore those that talk down or are snotty ๐Ÿ™‚

Don’t spend your energy trying to explain why you want the kind of ring you want, they will probably never understand. Just brush it off, and let the ring do the talking! 

Your ring, your choice and your Fiance. I would love to see your moissy when you get it!, I love moissy rings ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My best friend, who is almost like my sister was very snotty about my e ring when my Fiance proposed. She said it wasn’t big enough and the diamonds on the band were too small for her taste and she would have preferred a Tiffany. (Mine’s a Leo Diamond, which are amazing!)

This made me sad, because we value the opinions of those who are close to us… I even had nightmares about going to Tiffany’s, buying a new ring and returning my original ring and Fiance catching me and asking where the ring he bought was!!!

How ridiculous is that?!

In the end, you are the one wearing the ring, and if you love it and it fits your personal style, then that is what matters!

Side note: Fiance told me the story about how he searched through 100s of rings before he saw mine and immediately teared up because he could imagine placing it on my finger. It’s a decent sized diamond, and I have long and thin fingers, so I never wanted anything that was ostentacious or too big. So, i now absolutely love my ring!!! 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@musician32992:  It really sucked, it hurt because she knew I loved it and had to put a big damper on everything! ๐Ÿ™ In the end, she apologized and said she was jealous that I got engaged before she was ๐Ÿ˜› Still; not acceptable!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@musician32992:  Oh boy! I guess you could just explain to your mom the benefits of having your moissanite ring and how amazing it is that you can get like 5x the shine for wayyy less of a blood diamond! And explain how diamonds are mined and they are not “humanistic” or whatever! Haha, good luck girl!! <3

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have a sapphire instead of a diamond. After I got engaged, my aunt (a certified gemologist), asked to look at my ring and spent half an hour “inspecting the strations and characteristics of the stones” trying to prove that my ring had a fake stone. Eventually she said that she guessed it was real or at least a really great fake and gave it back to me.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

When I showed my brother a picture of the ring SO’s planning to get me (the ring I picked out!), he couldn’t believe it was “only” half a carat and “only” costs x amount, implying that my SO isn’t good enough for me/doesn’t love me enough because he’s not spending everything he has on a giant diamond. And that was before I had decided that I’d rather have a Moissy than a diamond, ha! I can only imagine the outrage had this conversation taken place a couple of months later.

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