(Closed) Family members snotty about ring choice? Any experiences like this?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re the only one that has to love the ring, you have to wear it for life, you have to love it.

 

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I got tons of snotty remarks because I got a black diamond. I was told that it ‘wasn’t an engagement ring if it wasn’t a diamond’.. BULLL!

Post # 35
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@musician32992:  When people get snotty about me having a moissy I usually tell them about Sierra Leone.  It ends the conversation pretty quick.Wink

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Personally, I’d just ignore her. You’d be surprised what a simple smile and a straight stare will accomplish the next time she brings it up. Personally, I wouldn’t have told her in the first place. It is between you and your Fiance.

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d just lie, and say it’s a real diamond. Of course SO gotta be in on it.

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@musician32992:  

 

Honestly it’s no one’s business what you and your SO decide to do as far as rings go. If you love it, and you picked it out, and it’s your dream ring, then that’s all that matters.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@musician32992:  We had a similar issue with Future Mother-In-Law. She wasn’t outwardly snooty but it was apparent that she wasn’t as interested in seeing it once she heard it was “a fake”. (Ummm no, it’s very, very real. Moissanite is real. Even CZ is *real CZ*! I hate that remark, if you couldn’t tell.)

What matters most is that my Fiance and I love love love my ring. And you will love yours!

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Some people have been indoctrinated in believing firmly that only a diamond ring counts as an engagement ring. That’s not the case in our modern times anymore!! There’s such variaty of stones that can be used in e-rings nowadays, which keeps things interesting. 

Post # 43
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Newbee

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@SarahVee:  I am so sorry your friend reacted that way! A friend of mine had a similar experience; she and her Fiance announced they were engaged on a double date with two very good friends, and the girl started being very mean to her, and eventually threw a hissy fit and left early… Turns out she was upset that she wasn’t engaged yet. It is sad to think that people can be so selfish, hopefully your friend will have a chance to make it up to you! By The Way your ring is gorgeous! 

Post # 44
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Newbee

@ everyone who has shown pictures/ linked to their ring… Gorgeous! I can’t believe that so many people still believe that an engagement ring doesn’t “count” unless it features white diamonds. I guess the diamond industry (DeBeers!) has found the magical marketing formula. People should get what they like and what they feel good about, period! Whether that is a diamond or another stone. I am not engaged, but I have been lurking on all of these forums oohing and aahing at rings because I’m pretty sure diamond is not for me, and I love seeing everyone’s non-diamond sparklies. It is really disheartening to hear that so many of you have had to justify your choices; that is ridiculous on so many levels. Not only is this something that represents your relationship to your future husband– not to them!– but it is something YOU have to wear and love– not them!– and a purchase that you and your FI– not them!– are making. 

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Please don’t pass your ring off as something it is not. It’s fine to do moissanite, but you need to own it.

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

YES! My own mother told me that I was wrong for wanting a sapphire (white or blue) instead of a diamond, because diamonds are supposed to be forever. Blah blah blah… I could care less if she likes it or not, it’s my ring and that’s all that matters! I can’t wait for it! I’m sure I will get more comments later, but it’s my soon to be Fiance and my choice not theirs.

Rock your ring, and enjoy it!

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