(Closed) Family, money and major stress

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 4
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

it sounds to me like you need to talk to your brother, and brothers Girlfriend about more equally dividing the costs and work. I had a married couple move in with me for a few months and there were some readjustments in prices going on. If your cigarette bill is $20 a day then maybe you can switch weeks. If your brother has money for it then maybe bring it up to him in a non judging way putting little emphasis on your lack of money. Something like “FI and I are running a little short on cash until I can find a job, would you mind covering part of the _________ bill this month?” cigaretts, grocery, electric… whatever you need help paying. They have been living under your house and eating your food, I am sure they will understand after thinking about it.

Post # 6
36 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

It sounds like a very stressful situation. Perhaps prioritizing things in your life to reduce your stress levels will be helpful. If your home life is a mess will your wedding be as enjoyable as you want?

I feel that maybe dealing with one life event at a time and then cosnidering having your wedding when the budget has more freedom and your life is more relaxed, will be the best option. It would be a shame to throw an event knowing money is tight and your wedding isnt the focus of the day. You deserve the best day and it might be worth the wait 🙂

Good luck! 🙂

Post # 7
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012


No offense, but perhaps you should ask them to leave. Let them know you have been kind enough to try and help them out but are nearing your breaking point. I hate to say it, but it sounds like they are walking all over you and you shouldn’t have to compromise your wedding wishes to meet their needs. Good luck to you and I hope you get the wedding of your dreams. 

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