Post # 1
Today I found out my brother is not coming. I am not sure why he decided not to come, he just deleted his confirmation that he was coming to our wedding on FB. He just re-retired, so work is not a problem, I am 3 hours away. It just seems odd in the first place why he decided to come now to not come it is weird. My other brother is working and unable to attend.
A long time ago I told myself my relationship with him was not healthy, it still is not.
Post # 3
Are you positive him taking away his confirmation on FB equals him not coming? Sometimes I don’t like to advertise to the “world” (aka FB) that I will be out of my house at a certain day/time.
It would be totally fine to bring it up to him to ask for clarification.
If he truly is not coming, I totally understand. I had my entire family (mom and two sisters) tell me up front they could not come to a wedding in my state (even with a paid vacation house!). I did not follow through with the idea after that news.
Post # 4
He and his wife both took themselves off the confirmation list. It is okay, this is why I decided a long time ago I have to know that many of my friends are closer to me than my brother.
The bad part for me is my mom expects him, with dementia no words I can say are going to make it okay for her. I hope he goes and sees her at some point when I am not there.
I think I posted this because many young women think it might get better later in life. This is the reality of a relationship that fell apart decades ago and it will never be a normal relationship. It takes two to make it work, my other brother and I don’t agree on a lot of things but somehow we muddle through it, and today we are okay.