(Closed) Family not coming to wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

You booked on the date knowing it was her birthday, her 21st?

That was pretty presumptious of you and it seems it is now biting you in the buns. It could have fone either way and I’m sorry that it didnt go yours in this case. 

sounds like your grandparents and uncle are trying to do the “right” thing and attend both. Be grateful that they are attending if if only for a certain part. 

Your wedding does not make the world spin even though us bridws sometimes feels this is the case. I am sorry, bee πŸ™

Post # 3
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Busy bee

If you knew that your family is actively involved in said cousin’s life and knew she would do a big thing for her 21st bday and decided to get married on the day of your cousin’s bday… then I guess you sort of signed up for this? if you didn’t know all this and assumed no one would mind, then it sort of sucks and they’ll miss out on your happy occasion. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

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violetflowers:  i mean… why wouldn’t she book her birthday party on the day of her birthday if she can? it would be a friday and she would be 21.. which is a pretty big day to celebrate. 

Yeah its weird to me that grandparents would want to be there for a 21st birthday party but I guess your cousin does it big with family. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Is it common in your family to celebrate birthdays together like that?  Would your family need to travel far to be at her party or your wedding?  I’m sorry things are turning out so unexpectedly πŸ™

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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violetflowers:  she knew it was your wedding date and booked a party that night anyway and now your family is ditching for it? Yeah, sorry, but that sucks. And I don’t think you can avoid everyone’s b day, anniversary, etc. it’s not as if she couldn’t have done the party Saturday night.

but, I guess these people will miss out and that sucks. Don’t let it keep you down. Enjoy your wedding. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

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violetflowers: yeah thats all just so weird. if you two arent close then i guess her not attending the wedding isn’t a big deal/ having a party same day?

I’d just communicate with your grandparents and let them know how much it means to you to have them there and if they still dont want to stick around – nothing you can do about it. it sucks though – thats true.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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violetflowers:  Aww I am so sorry, you are breaking my heart πŸ™

I think what you suggested is very fair, however she is also right to have the party.  Did she and her part of the family RSVP for your wedding?

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