(Closed) Family obligation

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: should i wait for another few years and trust he will move out with me?
    yes : (12 votes)
    40 %
    no : (18 votes)
    60 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    748 posts
    Busy bee

    If you’re not happy now, what do you think will change to make you happier in a few years?

    Post # 4
    Member
    857 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think you need to look at this as an entire situation. Yes, YOU are unhappy there, but it seems your husband is. You, as you said, have a child now. If you were to move to a large city, would both you and your husband have to work to pay the bills? Would you be okay with having a babysitter for your child, if that is the case? Financially, is your husband in a good position with his family company, that he could support all of you?

    It’s not about you, and as shitty as it is youre miserable there, you need to think about whats best for your entire family. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1869 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I wish I had advice to give you… I can’t imagine how you must feel. It’s like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. Have you mentioned wanting to move back to your city (alone with baby) to your husband? I’m curious to know what he thinks of that.

    Also, what were the discussions about the living situation before you guys got married. Was moving where you are now supposed to be a temporary place and now he wants to stay for good or did you both decide you would move there for good prior to marriage?

    EDIT: I don’t see what a few more years will do. If you’re husband can’t see himself moving now because of the business, I can’t see him wanting to leave the longer he stays there and just gets used to the environment. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    13101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Are you sure this is JUST his parent’s want?  Maybe your DH also truely wants to be a part of the family business.  Plenty of kids aspire to follow in their parent’s footsteps.  If this is what your DH has always wanted and what makes him happy and provides financial security for your family, it doesn’t seem smart to me to throw that all away.

    Post # 9
    Member
    340 posts
    Helper bee

    I think a small town is a perfect place for a child to grow up bc less can harm and influence them. You can teach and give an extra education on the side. There are so many online programs now for accelerated learning. This opportunity is allowing you to stay home with your baby which is so rare in a big city. You should try to make friends with the other mothers and wives and maybe your happiness will increase.

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