(Closed) Family-only ceremony/Not wanting to invite certain friends

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sorry no one’s responded to this! :/ 

My first thought was: yes, I think it’s perfectly ok to only exclude people (esp girls) who were mean to you the past few years. Why on earth would you want them there anyway? 

Are there no friends you would have anyway, though? I would consider only inviting family and ‘close friends’…. who can be whoever you choose. If you do want some friends there, I would invite them either way. 

I expect a lot of comments as well (our invites haven’t gone out yet) but I am doing something similar. Inviting only close friends and family (37 people altogether I believe). 

Just remember: there is a REASON you are not inviting these people. The people and family you want to be there will support and care and celebrate with you, these other people probably wouldn’t do that, even so it would erase the pain they may bring you by even being there on your wedding! 

You can forgive people… but it can still hurt! :/ Ultimately the pain goes away but if you do not feel especially loving towards these old friends, don’t feel bad about not having them there. 

I hope you have a super special day, praying the small wedding process goes smoothly for you! 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I sort of wish we had had a family-only wedding.

We kept out wedding small (~70 total) and only invited maybe a dozen of our very closest friends.  Of those friends, I would say that one third really went out of their way to make our day special, one third were neutral, and one third really made the day not as good.  When it was all said and done, I felt like the overall energy would’ve been better if it had just been a 60 person wedding of family only.

I can understand your wanting to embrace forgiveness and love toward your friends, but whom you invite (or don’t) to your wedding doesn’t have to me a matter of love vs. spite.  I think most brides have to cut people off their list they wish could come, and a true friend will understand either way.  If they don’t understand, that’s something for you to deal with outside your wedding, if it’s even worth it.  There’s a big difference between forgiveness and inviting people to bring bad vibes to your celebration, you know?

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