Post # 1
Any other ladies have a family only wedding party? I already have 7 bridesmaids that are very close family members(including my sister as well as my fiance’s sister and cousin). However, I know a few of my friends are expecting to be a bridesmaid. My parents keep telling me that no one should expect to be in a wedding party but I just know they will have their feelings hurt. I would love any advice people have about how to have this conversation with them. Seven bridesmaids is already a lot (in my opinion) and my Fiance only has 5 groomsmen so adding more just won’t be possible. I just hate hurting people’s feelings! 🙁 Thanks!
Post # 3
Could you make your friends be readers? Or hand out programs? Seven is alot of BM’s and I’m sure if you explain to your friends they will be a little hurt but understand.
Post # 4
Tell them just that! Seven ppl is a lot and so you decided to just have family only. They cannot be mad about that. I’m having my sister only for that same reason because I have travelled and lived in different countries and have friends from different stages of my life so I decided that instead of picking one or two and having the rest be hurt I’m having my sister only. Otherwise my entire friends guest list for the wedding would be in the wedding party.
Post # 5
@talljabride: Agreed. I also just had my sister in my party, and I don’t think friends had their feelings hurt because, well, it was “just family.”
Post # 6
@MrsDeLovely: We did family only in our wedding party. When questioned by some we just said we chose that because we didn’t want a huge wedding party, or didn’t want to leave someone out. All seemed to understand
Post # 7
We had an all immediate family bridal party with the exception of one groomsman. We could´ve had a huge wedding party with just family but we decided to keep it to 3 on each side. I´m so glad we did because we avoided a lot of the drama from extended family members and friends that felt like they were excluded.
We asked other family members to be in charge of gift table, guestbook, kid table, etc. Everyone felt included without actually being in the wedding party.
Post # 8
I agree with the PPs – 7 is a good number but any more than that is a lot. You have good reason as it’s family only. I have 4 family members in mine and 2 friends of 10+ years who might as well be family, but I still had to break the news to a couple friends that 6 was our max and it really came down to the “family” thing. If they are good friends they will completely understand 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
It seems like any good friend should understand your reasoning! Especially if you have 7 already.
We are thinking about having just our siblings in the wedding party. But after Christmas, when my sister was a continual fucking nutcase and soured our relationship somewhat (long story), I dunno, we might just have no wedding party. I’ve been to some like that and it’s very intimate and nice.