Post # 1
It’s almost 3 weeks away! The ‘RSVP by’ date is tomorrow so I’ve got a pretty good idea of who’s coming & will need to contact just a few unresponsive guests.
But I’m trying to come up with a “seating chart”. We’re having assigned tables, but not assigned seats. I’ve got pretty much all the tables done (7 total guest tables) except MY family tables. My parents divorced when I was 5 and I do not want to sit them together. I have to have 3 tables, one for my mom’s immediate family, one for my dad’s & one for um.. my mom’s brother’s family since my grandparents do not approve of the woman he’s with.
So I’ve got my mom’s side of the family kind of figured out. Now I can’t figure out what to do with my Dad. I was going to seat him with my cousins on that side of the family but I havent heard from 2 & the other I just got her decline RSVP. none of my aunts and uncles on that side are coming (all out of state family) so I’m worried I’ll have no one to seat at his table. I don’t feel I should seat him with friends since he is my Father… I could seat him with my uncle (mom’s brother) but they haven’t talked since I was FIVE, so that may be awkward too.
any suggestions or anyone have some sort of seating dilema like this? What did you do?
Post # 4
What about your grandparents on his side of the family? I’d try to put him with either family from his side, or older family friends. If those aren’t possible, I think it’s best to put them with your uncle. There will probably be more people at that table to diffuse the awkwardness. So they can decided how close or how far away to sit. Good luck and hope that helps!
Post # 5
Why not mix it up a bit and not necessarily seat entire family “sections” together? Cousins could sit with others their age, and your Mom’s brother’s family- could you split them up a little, or do they need an entire table? Does your Dad get along with that part of your Mom’s family? at least they must know each other… maybe they could sit together?
I’m going through something similar…and I think it is so obnoxious that people can’t get along for one day. But I guess it just goes along with wedding planning. It’s just not one of the “funner” parts!
Post # 6
Doesnt your dad have a friend he wants to bring? I also have to seat my parents VERY far away from one another. Opposite sides of the room. Where are you sitting? Maybe you can seat him at your table even if you are doing a bridal party table or a kings table he can sit with you.
Post # 7
can you sit your dad with your fiance’s parents and their family maybe?
Post # 8
@justeen – my grandparents on that side of my family have passed away.
@menobride – my uncles “party” would be 6 people and the tables seat 8.
@gulbraa44 – my dad said he’s going to try to bring my half-sister, but other than that, he’s divorced from my stepmom too so he wouldn’t be bringing anyone else.
lol thanks for the comments everyone, it helps to hear that other people are thinking the same thing, so i think i may just put him with my uncles family so it’s still a “family” table. All of my FI’s family tables are figured out. I’d rather have the “family” tables
anyway, thanks again bee’s for another question helped!