Post # 1
Trying to get some opinions on my SIL’s upcoming bridal shower. SIL lives across the country but her mom’s family is from and still lives near us. She is DH’s half sister with the same dad so we don’t know that side of her family all that well but certainly have met most of them (at least Darling Husband has and I know a few). Every summer SIL and her parents come to visit and have a big party with the moms family. There is usually a big family reunion type party and SIL has said Darling Husband and I can attend this year but it seems a little awkward that we would be the only ones. SIL has one college friend in the area and DH’s older sister (that none of us really get along with) that would not be included. SIL seems to think it’s “fine” and says she is having a bigger shower with her friends and family on their dad’s side at home. I guess we will just crash their family reunion but I am tempted to see if she will have a smaller thing with us and her college friend and inviting the other SIL who wouldn’t go anyway. Is that rude to ask? Or should I try to plan a dedicated shower for SIL since she doesn’t seem enthused with the current plan?
Post # 2
One shower is enough for most people, sounds like this gal is already having two. So there is 0 reason for you to plan a third.
Post # 3
You wouldn’t be crashing, you have been invited so I would go if you want to. I wouldn’t decline this invite and then plan a third shower for her just because you wouldn’t know many people at the one you are invited to. That’s not really how it works, this should be about her not you. If she wanted the college friend or the other sister to be included then she would have invited them.
Post # 4
Thanks and I do agree on no third. I guess a little backstory that S-MIL really wanted a celebration with her side of the family for SIL so originally I was asked by SIL if I could help to plan. I was kind of waiting to see when they were planning to visit. S-MIL told her SIL their dates before I found out and then it was just decided to do it this way. SIL is bummed that her friend is not invited but her aunt, who is hosting, said no. It seems not at all like the original plan and the aunt even seems a bit put out about it. I don’t know why and the situation seems weird all around. I guess I was thinking more of having a girls night with SIL and friend and just celebrate then because although we were technically invited it seems to be not such a warm invitation. And I know it is not about me but about SIL and I want what will make her happy as the current situation is just “fine”
Post # 5
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You don’t need to plan her a third shower. I dont’ really understand why she’s not inviting her other sister or her best friend, but that’s up to her to figure out/ not your problem.