(Closed) family rift, who to invite to our wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
5092 posts
Bee Keeper

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latinabee :  Will anyone be posting photos on Facebook or Twitter or anything?  

What if you hired a security guard, and they saw the guard when they arrived?  

Post # 3
3848 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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latinabee :   Word travels fast, especially in families, and you have to think what will happen when the others find out either before or after your wedding.

Personally I’d go with the small ceremony and skip the reception, if an altercation is that likely.


Post # 4
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I have a feeling they’re going to find out about the reception in some way or another. If you’re not comfortable inviting them, then that’s completely up to you. I only know of your family dynamics from your post which is not enough to really gauge if they would behave at the reception. Judging from the restraining order situation, I’m guessing not. I’m inviting some relatives that do not get along, but they are more the type to stay away from one another to keep the peace than cause a commotion. If you do choose not to invite them and lie about the reason, be prepared on them finding out about it. There’s not much they can do at that point, but they may hold a grudge.

Post # 5
1767 posts
Buzzing bee

They WILL find out. Seat them on different ends of the room and have a discussion beforehand. “This is our special day and we’d really like it if you could put your differences aside for just one night. If not, you will be asked to leave”.

Post # 6
13627 posts
Honey Beekeeper

If you aren’t inviting them, there’s no reason to tell any of them anything. If anyone puts you on the spot, just say you are keeping it to immediate family and some friends. I’m sure they can figure out why. 

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