Post # 1
So a while ago my mom gave me her engagement ring, which also belonged to my great grandmother. It doesn’t fit her anymore and hasn’t worn it in years. I currently wear it sometime on my right hand.
My boyfriend was talking about rings/engagement rings and asking about my taste. I mentioned how I’d love to wear the family ring as an engagement ring just because of the sentimental value and I really love the look. Would pretty much be what I’d want as an engagement ring.
However then i talk to people about the idea of using the ring and they say “he should buy you your own” or “you can’t do that because your mom gave it to you”. Even my mom said ” he should buy you something new”. I feel that I wouldn’t need something new but then people saying things makes me rethink that idea.
What would your opinion be.
This topic was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by quietmouse.
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
could you re-use the diamond in a new setting? best of both worlds then 🙂
Post # 3
You can use your family ring ad and engagement ring and have him buy you a right hand ring or vise versa
Post # 4
I have a ring that has been passed down my family , its beautiful and I love it and I’ve always known it’s what I wanted as my engagement ring. my boyfriend is planning to propose sometime next year , and he is okay with using it instead of buying a new one. I’d rather put the money towards the wedding or something than spending £1000’s on a new ring when I love my family one.
Post # 5
If you love the family ring and wish to use it as your e-ring that is your choice and screw what others say. I think it is silly to say that he has to buy you one. What about all the Fiance out there who used family heirlooms or hand me down rings? Do those rings not count? See how silly that is?
And anyway, you will both be in the market for wedding bands eventually so there is his opportunity to buy you a ring.
Post # 6
That is my thought on it 🙂 I really love the ring. It’s a solitaire and the setting has a vintage/antique look. It’s a combination of gold for the band and platinum for around the diamond.
Post # 7
My engagement ring is a family heirloom from my husband’s grandmother. I love it! I don’t see why he should have to buy a new ring if you already have one that you love. If you and he are happy with the ring, that’s all that matters. Plus, you could use the money that would’ve been spent on a ring and put it towards the wedding or honeymoon.
Post # 8
I have heirloom jewelry. I have jewelry my sweetheart has gifted me. I love all the pieces.
But there is something a bit more sentimental and (dare I say?) territorial about wearing my hubs’ rings on my wedding finger. You’ve heard the phrase, “it’s not personal, it’s business”? Well, imo, the marital bling is very personal.
Just my $0.02.
Post # 9
Who cares what other people think? Do what you want to do.
We were planning on using my mom’s diamond for a long time, but when it came down to actually looking at rings, Fiance said he really wanted to buy me one all on his own. It meant alot to him. But that doesn’t mean it means alot to Tom, Dick, or Harry. Just do what makes sense for you and your SO, whatever that may be.
Post # 10
I think that other people’s thoughts on the matter are inconsequential. If you want to wear the family ring, then wear it. It saves money for the wedding and it’s what you want (which is more important than people’s opinions). You’ve heard the saying opinions are like a-holes, right?
Family tradition on my husband’s side is that every girl wears my mother in law’s first wedding ring for the first year of marriage. Call her crazy, but she says that something in that ring will make your marriage last 50 years just like hers. I’m not her biological daughter (she has 3), but she gave it to me to wear anyway because I married her son. I wore it proudly even though it didn’t even match my set (hers was yellow gold, my rings are platinum). The ring is sentimental to you. Wear it. Tell everyone else to keep their mouths shut.
Post # 11
My wedding band was my grandmother’s and I can’t imagine another ring feeling more special to me. I don’t think you would ever regret using your great grandmother’s engagement ring, especially since you like the style and would basically be looking for a duplicate. It’s silly to think there are “rules” about this type of thing, but then I’m in the minority and don’t believe a husband-to-be has to spend a possibly uncomfortable amount of money to “prove” how he feels about his future wife…
(And by the way, no one has ever said anything negative about my heirloom ring, quite the opposite!)
Post # 12
Use the ring you already have if you love it so much! People will think what they want, but likely they’ll promptly forget anyway.
Post # 13
Post a picture I would love to see the ring I Love vintage rings 😍
Post # 14
What does your SO think of this? His opinion and your own are the only ones that matter.
Post # 15
I say if you love it and your SO is ok with using it as engagement ring. ..why not? Try not to let others influence what you want. ..my take on that is you may regret not using it down the road. Yes..pictures please! !