(Closed) Family Rivalry Trouble

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Riot: I agree that you should have a separate shower.  I understand she has done a lot of scene stealing in the past, and this is just another kick in the bucket, but focus on your upcoming events and your happiness. She didn’t intentionally get pregnant to steal the spotlight from you, but she shouldn’t have tried to get your events to also be about her. Like I said, just move forward with your events and be kind but firm with her should she press the matter.

Post # 4
7385 posts
Busy Beekeeper

The act of pregnancy isn’t scene stealing, I always think thats such a reach when I  read that on here. But to suggest a combo shower is insane. If you can’t make it. Oh well. Seems like there will be drama no matter what you do, so why make yourself miserable

Post # 5
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d give a big “F*ck NO!” to the joint shower suggestion. Even if you were on great terms with this cousin, your shower should be about celebrating your marriage not the unplanned pregnancy of your cousin. She can have her own shower that’s all about her. 

Post # 6
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


If you is a “scene stealer” I would have your bridal party on alert to keep her in check during the shower. I’m just paranoid LOL but I’ve seen damage people can do at weddings, showers et al.


Post # 8
68 posts
Worker bee

I’m going to say “no” to the joint shower.

   A.) It’s fine to ask someone to join your shower, but it’s quite rude to ask to join someone else’s shower.  I can see two people having a double baby shower or a double wedding shower, but only if they decide that together.  No piggy backing someone else’s day.

   B.) It’s a little odd to have a joint baby and wedding shower (unless it’s for the same person) because they’re celebrating two different things and tend to flow differently. 

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