(Closed) Family RSVPing no ??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
24 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

Kinda funny, our situation is sort of the opposite. We live in Las Vegas but he is from California and I am from Houston! We decided to get married in Houston and not much of his family will make it. But I think that is a lot to ask in our situation – airfare, hotel, etc.

As for your situation, that is pretty crummy! I would feel hurt. But don’t feel embarrassed, I mean his family will be there, so you will still have lots of people around you that want to be involved. 

Post # 4
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsRichard:  don’t stress that! I have about 200 people invited from my side and he’s only inviting 30-35 guests. Did they give (good) reason why they are unable to make it?

Post # 5
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ouch, while 3 hours is a drive, it’s not THAT long for a wedding! I’ve drove 6 hours to one a couple times!

We are sort of in the same situation. Fi has a MUCH bigger family than I do, I have MANY 20 people combined in my family that I will be inviting. [Our family is divided, there’s the “rich” part, and the “middle class” part. The rich hate the middle class because we aren’t able to make it to their many balls/fundraisers and crap they throw.. because we have to work, and they are only “rich” because their grandfather won a lawsuit years ago, and passed away. Lucky them].

Anyway, we’ll be sending out 100 invites total, but we’re only excepting anywhere from 40-65 to show up. All of fi’s family is at least 2,000 miles away, and I don’t expect most of them to be able to make it! As long as fi’s parents, sister & grandmother are there [thats who he wants there], i’ll be happy!

Post # 6
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Our situation to is the exact opposite. We invited  167 people and it was close to even (like 90 me to 77 him). We have not mailed invitations yet but based on response from our save-the-dates our number will be like 80 to 35. Yikes. We are not doing his/her side seating at our ceremony because I don’t want him to feel bad!

Post # 9
8168 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@MrsRichard:  That’s very disappointing. Maybe you will find some special people among your new family, to help lessen the hurt from your family of origin. 

Best wishes.

Post # 11
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’d never even think of asking for a reason why they can’t come. It doesn’t make a difference. They can’t. A wedding invitation is just that. An INVITATION, not an obligation. Is it rude that they didn’t even RSVP? Yes. Are they obligated to come and should you be upset if they don’t? Not at all.

Post # 12
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MrsRichard:  That stinks! I’m so worried about people showing up to our wedding, so I can totally relate.

Post # 15
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can understand being disappointed, but don’t let it upset you too much. No one will be there tallying up the number of guests. Just make the amount of ceremony chairs equal on each side, people will fill in your side once FI’s fills up.


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