Post # 1
Is it fair? We eloped last year. Our big wedding is this july now. My family says I can’t have a shower because we’re already married! I don’t think that’s fair. It’s not like we had one already. Neither of us have ever been married before and I think we deserve it! I’m sad.
Post # 3
Hmm… I’m sorry but I agree with your family. You decided to elope and one of the down sides is that you don’t get to have the big white wedding with all of the trimmings and all the pre-wedding parites. Congrats on your marriage though!
Post # 4
I agree with your family too. Sorry 🙁
Post # 5
Also agree. You made the choice to elope, and that comes with the territory. I absolutely would not attend a shower for someone who eloped a year ago. Sorry hun.
Post # 6
Also agree. Sorry. By eloping (and there are lots of good reasons to elope!) you kind of negated all of the pre-wedding celebrating. 🙁 If you’re having a reception, it’s likely you’ll get gifts there.
What are you hoping for out of your shower? Gifts, girl-time, seeing family members?
Post # 7
I also agree with your family. It was your choice to elope, and when you elope you give up certain things, like a shower. Having a shower would appear gift-grabby.
Post # 8
I was going to say, you should get a shower, as I think it’s probably one of the funner things about being a bride. But I see their points. Could you just do a casual party with friends/family and say “no gifts”?
Post # 9
It sucks, but yeah I don’t think you can have a shower. 🙁
@hassle_J: I think this is a good idea, although I don’t know what you’d call such a party?
Post # 10
@NicoleMatt100111: I’m with your family, I’m sorry.
I think you’ll find that most girls on the boards who eloped a while before the wedding don’t expect gifts. You can have a party, but the whole point of a shower is gifts.
Post # 11
Hmm yeah.. I agree with your family.
Post # 12
Agree with your family – that ship has sailed. Bridal showers are by definition for brides to be, which, as a married woman, you are not.
Post # 14
As a married woman, if she wants en excuse to get together with a bunch of girlfriends, she can have any kind of party that any other married woman might have. She can invite people over for a wine tasting. Sunday brunch. Cocktail party. Dinner party. Pool party. Backyard BBQ.
… just not anything that has to do with her wedding, which happened a year ago. And not anything that carries the social obligation of bringing a gift (other than a small hostess gift like you’d bring to any “regular” party).
Post # 15
I personally would not attend a “bridal” shower if I knew the couple was already married. It is one of the things that goes by the wayside when one elopes.
Post # 16
I have to agree with your family unfortunately.
On a lighter note, everytime I see this thread, I think in my head that your family won’t let you shower lol I’m not sure why.