Post # 1
I have some family staying with us tonight on their way to another family member’s home for Thanksgiving…I got a text from one of the family members (a person who married into the family, so a spouse of my relative) and he said they will be in at roughly midnight tonight and will leave “after breakfast” tomorrow. Does that mean I have to feed them!!?!?! I have a doctors appointment at 9:00 am tomorrow and my husband has plans to be elsewhere early in the morning. I find this so bold of him.
Post # 3
Seriously? I’d be beyond furious. You’re supposed to wait up for them or be woken up for them? I would find a way to say no.
Post # 4
they’re probably expecting breakfast, from the sounds of it.
i would tell them that you won’t be home, and if they’re hungry, they have to go out.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Put out a box of cereal and call it a day.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@MrsD41503: Sent a polite response that you have to leave by X for a doctor’s appt and your husband has to leave the house by Y for work. I would pick up some cheap pastries or cinnamon buns from the store and leave them out with a fresh pot of coffee and leave it at that. If they want something more they can go out and get it.
Post # 8
It might seem bold, but if people are sleeping at my home I would plan to have something for breakfast for them. Pick up some bagels or danish.
Post # 9
@canarydiamond: Exactly, thankfully we both have the day off tomorrow for the holiday. So yes, we have to make sure and stay awake or stay near our phone enough to hear it when they call/text…because….they don’t even know where we live! ha! I have to give directions from the interstate to our place. Mind you, our home is NOT large, it’s a 2 bedroom split level in city home, and they’re bringing 2 adults and 4 small children. I have a feeling they are just hard up for a place without the cost.
@colorofmyheart: I like your thinking, I plan on texting today to tell them that we have places to be tomorrow. Of course my mother says “can’t you just have bagels and peanut butter/cream cheese out?” Why make it easier on them!
Post # 10
@MrsD41503: As someone crashing for the space of 9 hours I wouldn’t expect to be fed necessarily, they’re probably using the term as a frame of reference – meaning we’ll leave after 9. That said, I would probably make sure you have juice and cereal for them. Just say ‘we have to leave early, there’s juice in the fridge and cereal on the counter.
Who knows, they may have come prepared, but probably not.
Post # 11
To be honest, I’d never even consider not feeding houseguests, regardless of how short of a time they’re there. If I’ve agreed to let someone stay at my house, I would understand this meant a meal was in order.
All you have to do is say that you have a doctor’s appointment and make sure there’s some cereal or yogurt. I highly doubt they’re expecting a full out restaurant style meal.
Post # 12
If this is family, and you like them, I don’t really see a problem with putting out some bagels/pastries for them to help themselves in the morning.
I don’t know, I just don’t see it as a huge inconvenience. Sure, a little advanced warning would have been good, but family helps eiachother out.
Post # 13
If I were crashing for 9 hours, I would not be expecting breakfast!
I have run out and gotten bagels FOR the family hosting me before, though!
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
@beachbride1216: agreed. If they want, they can have whatever you leave out but if not tough cookies. They cannot expect you to put out a full breakfast buffet just cause you’re doing them the favor of letting them stay over.
Post # 15
I have never had overnight houseguests and not provided breakfast for them. You don’t need to be up all morning making pancakes and eggs etc. Just have some bagels they can make for themselves before the head out.
Post # 16
My response would be “we have early appointments but there’s a starbucks down the street!”