Post # 1
Fiance and I are currently planning our reception and meeting with various catering outfits. Because we are having Indian food, an Indian restaurant in town is going to cater the meal and a “caterer” is going to provide the cutlery/service/linens, etc. We have about 200 people coming (which, believe it or not I have been told was “intimate” for Indian weddings) and it has been a struggle to cut it down to that number. We REALLY can’t cut it down anymore, and what’s more – I don’t really want to. I or my Fiance will know every single person there.
However, I’m worried it might be a little tight in the venue with a standard Indian 2 buffet tables. They have done bigger receptions before, but I’m still a little concerned. I decided to explore doing it family style and I spoke to our caterer. I was thinking maybe lazy susans (Chinese banquet style), but if we can’t find any or it gets expensive to rent, then it would just be a regular family style meal with people passing dishes around and then a server to refill them as necessary.
I found it it will be around $1500 more to do this family style than as a traditional buffet. The food will be more because they said they need to make more of it and then it’s an extra $1000 in service fees. If we were to do this, we could cut money out of our decor or other parts of our budget to compensate, but I really like everything planned so far!
For those Bees who have paid more for a family style setting, was it worth it?
Post # 4
Sorry I don’t have anything constructive to add but Indian weddings are my favourite. I am always in a food coma after dinner.
Post # 5
We enjoyed having family-style at our wedding–it fit our occasion, and I’m personally not a huge fan of buffets. However, we didn’t pay extra for it. We interviewed caterers who did quote us more for family-style than for buffet, but fortunately the one we picked didn’t.
Post # 6
My friend who is indian did this. It was beautiful- it created atmosphee at the table and you didn’t have to get up and carry a plate through 300+ people back to your table (so no spillage). I only knew one person at my table and we were all talking to each other and saying try this etc.
Also with that many people the lines for the buffet could be sooooo long.
Post # 7
I was just talking to my caterer about family style and she asked me out of it, haha. It would hve added $2200 to our total. I think that it would work well for Indian food, though!
Post # 8
@Ms. Martian: Haha, I’m really excited about the food at the wedding! I’m hoping that people won’t be in too much of a food coma to dance though!
@Frog E.: Ah, you’re so lucky to able to do it without the extra $$. We’re limited to very few caterers based on what our venue allows, and it seems like they all charge us extra for family style. :/
@j_jaye: Ugh that’s what I’m worried about – the spillage and the long lines. It just seems more elegant than a buffet with the benefits of a plated meal. Plus, it’s so Indian! That’s how we eat every night at home and at restaurants. But I’m glad to hear that you’ve been to an Indian wedding where this was done and it worked out well! I’ve only read about it but I’ve never seen it.
@Ellegee: $2200 more?! Wow, that would have been a deal breaker for us too. I haven’t gotten the final estimate, but I’m really really hoping it will be more reasonable.
Post # 9
@Osgirl: Yes nothing like trying to get vindaloo out of your formal dress!
Honestly all the non-indian guests though it was great- we don’t really have family style servings at restaurants here in Australia so it was definately something different for us! Sure beat a plate of rubbery chicken served with cold vegies!
Post # 10
I don’t think family style should cost that much more! I have had family style at weddings and it is awesome in my opinion, we didn’t have lazy Susan we just passed the salad, and main plates across the table. And I think for the sides they did one for each side of the table.
I think you should ask them to stick to the same portions as the buffet, it doesn’t make sense to me why they should need alter them it is the same amount of people.
Post # 11
we decided to do a family style/served dinner instead of a buffet for our arab wedding. Let me tell you—it is MUCH MUCH classier and much more elegant. It was worth every penny.
It sucks because it cost us maybe 1,100 more and we only had 1 option of meat instead of fish & chicken & beef like I wanted but the served meals were A HIT with our very formal crowd. Fromt he indian weddings Ive been to: yours will be formal too.
P.S: Who the heck wants to wait in a buffet line of 200 people?!