Post # 1
Hive, please don’t think I’m a crazy person because my wedding is just short of 2 years away, and I’m already planning… pretty please? Ok good, thanks.
I found a great place to have our reception. For 50-70 people, we’re going to rent a private room (100 ppl capacity) at an Italian restaurant. I’ve seen the large party menus they offer, and I’m just crazy about the amazing food we can fit into our budget, not to mention the fact that even if I fail to do a single thing to decorate, the space will still be decently presentable at the very least. There’s one catch: they will only do family style (where they deliver larger platters of our selections to each round table, and guests pass them around the table, grabbing what they want) or buffet. They definitely won’t let us submit choices for each guest over 25 people, even if I narrowed the menu down to way fewer choices than they otherwise allow. What would (or did) you choose? I think the food would be fresher for family style, but less plates on the table for buffet… Any other pros and cons I haven’t thought of?
Also, if any bees have had an open bar for a restraurant ceception that was charged by consumption, would you mind sharing how many guests you had and how much it cost you? I figure if we have 60 people, and every single person has 3 $7 drinks, we’ll probably have to pay less than $1500 (before tax and gratuity), but it would be nice to know if I’m way off. I know some will have more than 3, but some will have less, right? Any relevant input is appreciated!
Post # 3
I would do family style so no one has to wait. If you’re not into decorating, no problem! The tables will be full of food anyways.
Is it just a dinner? I would say most people will probably have 1 or 2 drinks. If there’s dancing or something afterwards, maybe 3. Here’s a drink calculator –
Post # 4
@AlwaysSunny: Thank you, that’s really helpful! We haven’t decided our exact plan for dancing and music yet, but i’ll take what you said into consideration when planning for the budget 🙂
Post # 5
Personally, I am not a buffet fan at all – especially in formal wear. I used to work at a restaurant and they did family style parties – but the waiters still served each guest from the larger plate. Maybe you can ask them to do this so it will be a bit more formal than guests serving themselves??
Post # 6
Ladies who would choose someplace else entirely, can you clarify why either of these arrangements is a deal-breaker?
And I’ll clarify on my part that most likely there won’t be dancing at this reception, because our families are not really dancers. I’m planning on renting a limo to take us and our younger closer friends who do want to dance to a fun club or bar after the reception dies down.
Post # 7
I would do family style myself. It would go much more quickly than a buffet.
For the drinks, could you do a certain number of bottles of wine for each table? That way you can know ahead of time how much your bar tab will be.
If a set number of bottles aren’t possible, then it’s much harder to estimate. Will you have dancing? How long is your reception? Are your guests drinkers?
Post # 8
@MidwestBride2012: Thanks for the idea! The trouble with going the pre-determined wine route is that most of our family and friends, like us, are liquor drinkers. I wouldn’t want to supply the less popular option and leave them on their own to pay for the options they would have preferred. There probably won’t be dancing at the reception, and I guess I would classify most people as light-medium drikers. Without dancing, I’d guess the reception will be about 3 and half hours…
Post # 9
Ah, well wine doesn’t work nearly as well. For 3 1/2 hours, I’d budget for 4 drinks a person. I’ve heard to assume 2 drinks the first hour and 1 drink for each hour after that. It might be different for a restaurant reception, but I personally would rather err on the side of over budgeting.