- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2018
My wedding is in the fall. I have to say since booking my venue around 7 months ago…my family is determined to make every single thing a stressful nightmare and have robbed me of any joy I have had in the planning process. My sister refuses to even speak of my wedding. Keeps lying to people and saying she is engaged and getting married first (she isn’t engaged). Tries to shift all attention and conversation her way and changes her story constantly. Trashes my wedding to other people yet expects to be in the wedding to pretend like she is this role model sister. Gotta keep up with her social media image . When I was first engaged.. one of my friends asked her about throwing an engagement shower…she trashed the idea and how it was silly and a waste of money (without even asking me if it is something I wanted to do). So she is going around having jealous hissy fits over everything and we are barely on speaking terms. My mother apparently doesn’t like that I’ve made all the wedding decisions with my fiance (which why wouldn’t I….it is my wedding? lol). She also refuses to speak about my wedding, calls it my “event” and my fiance my “boyfriend.” I’ve shown her various ideas, shown her the venue, photographer, etc…prior to booking things…and even went dress shopping with her. But because I don’t need her to hold my hand through everything and won’t let her control everything or bully me…she is going around saying how horrible I am as a daughter. That she might not even attend the wedding. For mother’s day…I attended a cookout that my parents were supposed to be at. To make some big dramatic statement against me she text everyone saying she wasn’t coming because of me and wanted nothing to do with me on Mother’s Day. (News to me as I was attending to see my mother and didn’t know she was sending people those messages). So my relationship with my mother and sister through this wedding process has been strained if not torched completely. You can’t reason with crazy people. Then add in my grandma…who is pissed my venue has a maximum capacity and because I am not willing to invite certain people that I barely know…she says I have no respect for the family and do not care about family. (Because she cannot control the guest list). She and other relatives also expect me to pay to house them for the whole weekend or give them spaces in the housing I already have for myself and wedding party. The whole thing is so exhausting!! People are mad when I speak about stuff, mad when I don’t. I cannot win with my crazy narcissistic family. I’ve been tempted to literally cancel the wedding but I’m too far into deposits and despite the drama…I am planning the wedding to my own taste and desires. My fiance and his family are excited. Our friends are excited. Just ridiculous my family wants to pretend that this “Event” means nothing or is all about them and their expectations. *sigh* should have eloped lol. Who knows what they might pull if they do show up for the wedding. Newly engaged people…if you have mental illness in your family, narcissistic family members, etc…run to the courthouse or have a destination wedding and save yourself the money and heartache!