Family Tension with Wedding

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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5584 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

jamielynn8710 :  

I can’t imagine that it is just the wedding that is bringing out this level of crazy. Your mom and your sister have issues.

Just stop talking to them, tell people to stop telling you what they are saying behind your back, just stop interacting with them. Try to have the attitude “if they show up great, if they don’t, great. I don’t care what they do”

I laid down strict guidelines with people who I trust (a few friends, and my sisters to a certain extent) that I would have zero drama on my wedding day. I was only to have dress drama and I’m not talking about ripped hems, just dramatic dress flair.

And it worked. They knew I meant it. My mother behaved and while there was some drama, it never made its way to me. So that means it was a success.

My Brother-In-Law and SIL brought drama throughout the wedding planning process and tensions increased a few weeks before the wedding f so I told my Mother-In-Law that I was done, tell them where to be and what time, I wasn’t having the additional drama when I was stressed.

You can’t change your family but you can separate yourself. Emotional separation is key.

Post # 3
Member
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

jamielynn8710 :  Sorry to hear this Bee! I feel like we are in the same boat. I have a mum that is being WAY overly controlling and bullying me into decisions. Alot of Bee’s on here have helped me figure out I just have to stand my ground. You cannot control how your mother or sister react and behave. They are adults and their choices are their own.

You do you for the wedding. Don’t focus on them. Try to find a little joy while planning things with you FH. While addressing invitations, stop and take a moment to appreciate all the people that you want there with you. Try little things like that everytime you are doing a wedding task. Stop and think about why it is important and why it makes you happy. Hopefully that you bring you some joy!

I totally understand your feelings Bee! If you need to vent or chit chat, feel free to reach out!

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