- 4 years ago
Hello bees! Here is the situation…
My DH and I got married a few months ago. A few weeks ago we moved into a house that we are renting. We are now closer to some of my family (we lived about 30 minutes away before; most of DH’s family is on the opposite end of the country). Overall, I have a good relationship with my family.
My Aunt, Uncle, and 2 cousins live in the same development, a few streets over. They are basically a one minute drive away. DH and I were a little concerned about moving here because we were worried about not having enough privacy (we are both very private people). However, the house was too perfect to pass up, and we thought that if a situation came up, we would handle it.
A few days ago, I was talking to a few of my other family members, and they said that my Aunt and Uncle were telling them that they had tried to come over to visit with DH and I several times and they were very hurt that we were not answering and felt that we were ignoring them! Seriously!?
First of all, DH and I had absolutely no idea that anyone was attempting to come over to our house! They have our phone number, so it makes no sense to me why they did not try to call rather than wasting the time to drive over about 6 times. Second, my DH and I are, as I said above, pretty private. We love our families very much, but we are not a fan of people dropping by without calling first. After all, we are newlyweds, still adjusting to living together and GASP! We do have sex! I can only imagine if they were knocking on the door then!!
Even if we had been home those 6 times (which we weren’t, we both work crazy schedules and like to go away on the weekends pretty regularly) I really expect a phone call or text before someone comes over. How do people even know that I am available?! I feel like this makes me really high maintenance, but it is how I feel.
How do I handle this? We really don’t want to encourage people coming over without calling first, but we also don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I just feel like we are being gossiped about behind our backs without any chance to explain!