(Closed) Family Vacations with the In-Laws?

posted 7 years ago in Travel
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The devil will be going to work in a snow plough before I EVER go on holiday with Future In-Laws again.

I went on a long weekend with the Future In-Laws…and spent the whole time being judged by Future Father-In-Law…which I wasn’t even aware of until afterwards. And apprarently (and btw, I’m  43) he judged that I didn’t do well enough, and over 16 months later he is STILL sulking about it.

Sorry I can’t be more positive,  but those plans sound like my idea of hell.  You have very limited time off, spend it doing something you know you will enjoy. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would never want to go on a family vacation with my ILs because even a weekend with them tests my patience.  

However Darling Husband and I go on vacations with my family frequently and love it.  While we love traveling with just the two of us we also have a blast with my family.  It’s just a different type of vacation and dynamic and that’s totally fine with us.  

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@TheMsMittens:  The devil will be going to work in a snow plough before I EVER go on holiday with Future In-Laws again.


HILARIOUS!!!!  I’m cracking up reading that.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

week vacation rental ……live together in a 3 bedroom house

 

so you will still be cooking and cleaning as well as being crowded by his family – where is the vacation in that??

holiday with parents? no – absolutely not

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve been on family vaction with my in laws for a week in Florida at their time share and that is fine with me.  Cost and time wise, the flight is cheap, the timeshare is paid for, and we dont rent a car, and its only a week. We dont get to see them (4-5 hour flight away) very often, so I dont mind at all.  I dont really consider it a vacation, just spending time with the ILs  In your particular situation, I would not want to go.  The “big” trips (in terms of money and time) are reserved for what *I* (and my husband) want to do.  For 1, I would not pay the airfare to fly to Europe for just 1 week, the cost is just not worth it to me.  Then to stay at a house in the country side, while that sounds lovely, I would prefer to go to the cities like you first, so the time is not worth it to me either.  I;d find a way to get out of this one.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I could do it if I had an outlet, like a rental car and going off on my own with my hubby for a few hours each day. I’m very close to my own family though, and hope to get closer to his parents too.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Aaah! I went on a 2 week holiday with my in-laws this year…never again!!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I went on a vacation with SO and Future In-Laws this fall and it was a great time. We went to the bahamas though so the beach might have more of an escape feel than the French country side. I had a great time, sure they got on my nerves a little bit, but that’s part of being family in my opinion. It’s loving them eventhough they drive you a little nuts. 

In your specific scenario no we wouldn’t be going because we can’t afford it. They are planning something pretty extravagent, how would you feel about suggesting a less costly trip? Then maybe you guys can do something for a few days without them after?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We travel with them my parents all the time! my Fiance doesnt mind at all! my parents are usually covering the cost of the hotel/campsite or whatever and we pay for travel. 

on my Fiance side, every year we going to the same place and it SUCKS he doesnt like it. his grandparents pick the same spot and we try getting them to switch it and it doesnt work. none of our family live close and ALL our vacation time is used up traveling to see family. ALL of it. 

Fiance and I have been together almost 6 years, and have never traveled somewhere far together alone for a vacation alone.

This is not saying we dont do weekend trips all the time, but never a trip to hawaii or a cruise or anything! we have to use our vacation time going to see family out of state. I have gotten used to it. Its apart of becoming family. 

 
However, I have to agree going to Europe for 1 week and not going to the tourist parts of the country? doesnt make sense! just do that in the states! thats an expensive trip for just going out in the countryside! 
 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Bichon Frise:  If I saw them all the time anyways, I’d definitely not go.  The FL trip for us is only once every 2 years.  I like to go on a big trip every year also… on my own big trip.  There’s no way I’d go on a big trip every year with them.  If my family or they wanted to go along with my plans for a trip and go to the same place and and stuff, I’d be ok with that, but they’d have to understand I’m doing what I want and my purpose of the travel is to see and do, not spend time with them.  There just isnt enough vacation time and money for it. 

I did go to Hawaii with the ILs one year and I wasnt sure if I wanted to go cause I had been twice already, but with my husband (bf at the time) going, I’d just have a lot of vacation time left and him none to go anywhere with me so I went.  The compromise was that we went a few days earlier, spent more time there and sometime alone, and to an island I hadnt been.  Then we met up with his family half way through the trip and stayed with them the rest of the time.  It worked out perfectly.  Can you do soemthing like that and go do some other stuff near by that you watn to do and just meet up wtih them a few days?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m in a similar situation… Except my in laws are French and have a vacation house in the south… So we just have to buy the train ticket so it’s actually cheaper than taking our vacation… But it would be nice if Fiance and I could spend more quality time together. His family dynamic is different, where there is more of an expectation to do things as a family. It took a while to get used to, but luckily they are lovely people so I don’t mind spending vacations with them as long as I get Fiance time too. I’d give it a try if I were you, the country in France is so amazing if you’ve never been. Maybe you can skip out a few days earlier and go to Paris with your FI?

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