- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
i recently posted about this http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/mil-law-been-running-me-down my fmil has being running me down to my fi. i decided to carry on as if i didn’t know what she said and get over it…
it’s just not that easy, i went out last weekend with her daughter we get on really well, but fmil was really sharp with me, when i picked fsil up. we went for dinner last sunday and she was talking about fi little brother i just don’t know how i can bite my tongue anymore… she’s such a nasty woman.
here goes … this is a bit of background for you all..
eldest brother…. hasn’t been welcome in the family home for three years since a petty fall out with fmil … he has sadly declined my wedding invitation as he cannot be around his mother… she’s is really nasty to him. he’s a good honest hard working man and husband.
my fi… there was a period of two years where he was not welcome in the family home for defending his gf at the time.. it’s only since they split he has been allowed back. another good honest hard working man fabulous family man and step father to my son
third brother…. doesn’t visit his mum often as it’s just easier he keeps his distance.. still welcome at this point but .. and this is no word of a lie.. has been told he’s been removed from their will (OMG) another loving husband and father, hard working man…
4th brother… has now been told he can never step foot in her house ever again and that he is no longer family including his 3 children and fi … she refuses to tell me why she has done this… but i have asked this brother he told me it is because they’ve been visiting his fi mum more than her, and they got into an arguement about it and then he posted on facebook saying ‘omg wtf woman’ the eldest and thrid brother commented (these two brothers are not on good terms and it start a major slagging match) the mother then proceded to blame the 4th brother for causing more dispute between the family and told him he was banished… yey wtf… by the way this brothers fi is disabled and so are two of his children the other is 6 months old and was born early and may develope complications and therefore he doesn’t work… if i hear fmil tell him to get off his lazy arse and get a job one more time i’ll slap her… imo he has the hardest job of us all
i’m don’t really need to bring the sister into this … she’s the apple of mummy and daddies eyes (but thats not her fault and she loves all her brothers)
she then ordered my fi not to speak to his brothers … i’m not often stunned into silence but … i was stopped dead in my tracks … i then text my best friend to get her to ring me as an escape and prompty left her house…
her unprovocked and out of the blue dislike to me hasn’t stopped either… and i kind of know Fiance is next on her hit list… i just don’t think he can handle it… but to be told to choose between his brothers and his mum (and possible younger sister as she still lives at home) as a mother myself how can anyone do this to her children.
i’m just know i am going to crack… i don’t usually bite my tongue for anyone… and i know that it’s only a matter of time before it just all comes out … i don’t want to be the reason fi doesn’t see his mother but ….(breathe) ….. i can’t hold it in much longer.
i have six brothers (plus a step sister and a step brother) i speak to all of them, we are all really close… i speak to my parents all the time… and i know fi wants this so much it hurts him…. last week fi was going through some problems at work and bless him he says to me ‘i want a mum to talk too’ ….not his mum ‘A MUM’ so he rang mine they talked for like two hours and i could see the weight lifting off his shoulders… i feel for him 🙁
what do i do bee’s