(Closed) Family venting….but feeling like i’m a bad person. Am i?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

Dont feel pressurised! I dont think you have to sit there to show you care

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I actually think they’re the shitty ones.  Do they really think so little of you?  Also, do they not realize you have a life, with your own obligations?

How nice for them that they have the free time to spend sitting 6 hours a day next to an unconscious woman.  

I think you should tell them that you are going to visit your grandmother when you can, but that the guilt trips are unnecessary and inappropriate.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsDrRose612:  Just go and see your grandmother when you can and for the amount of time that you can.  Don’t feel you have to sign up for a “shift.”  You are OF COURSE not a bad person!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Fitting time for Eleanor Roosevelt’s famous “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” quote…

Seriously. You want to go visit her, you have a good heart, and you love your family. Don’t let them make you crazy with how many minutes you spend with her and what shift you’re taking – rise above the manipulation and be confident that you are a good family member who doesn’t need validation for it. You’re doing it for you, not for them.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

ignore them and go visit them on your own time. I think the shifts are a good idea and we did it for my grandma but one person at a time for overnight. The nurses and doctors were annoyed with all the visits and were like let the woman sleep!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Visit her when you can and when you want to. They can only make you feel guilty if you let them. Having said that I won’t let a family member be alone in a hospital especially if on medication. Hospitals make way to many mistakes and I don’t care if they want someone there or not someone needs to look out for their best interest.

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