- 4 months ago
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
Hi, Hive. I got some crappy news today and I really need some perspective. It’s gonna be a long one…
I am in college part-time, working 40+ hours/wk, and getting married 08/03/19 (WOOO!). Basically, I was told that I can’t graduate when I want to, due to a typo AND misinformed counselors, which pushes back Fiance & I’s family plan/TTC, and of course impacts my career.
The amount of credits I have ranks me as a senior at my college, and I only have a few classes left to obtain my degree. According to my original degree outline, I should only have 4 classes left.
At the end of every semester, I email my counselor to be sure that I am on track for graduation 05/2020. Recently, my counselor was changed and a new person tells me “Uh, no, you have 2 more classes, AND you need 10 credits worth of electives, ON TOP OF the other 4.” ….I was freaking shocked. I contacted the associate Dean about it, met with her, and she basically said that the degree plan was written up wrong, the counselor was a moron, and YES, I need over 28 credits more before I can graduate….which will be much further away than 05/2020…..
It is TOUGH working full time and going to school. Even taking two classes each semester is really hard on me both mentally and physically. These are the capstone classes, the college is 45 minutes away from my home and work, and I obviously work like a normal adult. Two classes per semester is my absolute limit. I already have to ask for special considerations in my work schedule to arrive/leave early due to my classes not being offered at convenient times.
My CFO is extremely forthcoming and accommodating towards me regarding my schooling. He has allowed me to change my schedule, leave in the middle of the day & return, and is just generally a good guy. My direct manager, on the other hand, is a piece of work – lies to me, lies to other coworkers, falsifies paperwork, doesn’t know much about our field, and has virtually no professional attributes. The CFO has made it clear to me that the plan is for me to in some way surpass her when I have my degree, or eliminate her position as she is a liability to the company as it stands.
I feel as though I’m impositioning my boss with this news and I’m apprehensive to bring it up. I know it will disappoint him, even moreso since I have made it very clear to him & HR that Fiance & I plan to have one of us home with a child when we have one.
Fiance is turning 34 in a few weeks – thus we originally planned on TTC during my last semester to hopefully announce my graduation AND pregnancy at the same time. I also feel like I’m letting Fiance down because, if we now wait until I am done with all these classes to start TTC, he could easily be 40+ for the FIRST kid, which is not what either of us want. We’re both ready to be parents. Only a few classes can be “tested out of” to get credits without a course, so the length of time added is still substantial – AND that’s assuming all classes are actually offered when the college usually offers them, and not cancelled (which has happened to me multiple times).
I’m considering proposing just taking one course per semester and starting TTC after the wedding this summer. I hate that this logistical/beaurocratic crap is putting my life on hold, and I feel like no matter what I do, someone will be upset, although I did everything I can to make this not happen. I’ve also been in college/working so long, this summer is the time when I’ve seen many of my high school friends finishing their MASTERS degrees, which just stings. Feeling like a failure today.
Any words of wisdom or perspective are appreciated. Thanks for reading my rant/whine.
TLDR: taking longer to complete BS degree, job could be impacted, Fiance & I are tired of putting off family planning