(Closed) family wearing black if the bride is wearing black??

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
7086 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that you are going to be in a hard place asking people not to wear black unless you have put this out there for all the guests.  Black has become a staple color to wear to weddings.  If you have asked everyone not to wear black, then she is just being a pain and you may have to go through other avenues to get to her, maybe the mom’s can jump in and help.  Moms are really the best for putting the foots down on those types of things.  Sorry she is being such a pain and not understanding.

Post # 4
3214 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Unfortunately, I agree with tksjewelry.

Off topic: What on earth does you both being women have to do with HER not getting the wedding that she wanted?  Honestly. People are ridiculous.

Post # 5
3974 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think it is too much to ask for that close family not wear black (for picture purposes), but I doubt you can really expect no one to wear black. I doubt your FW’s SIL will be in many pics, so I would just let it go.

Post # 7
2976 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

Honestly, you really can’t dictate what people wear unless they are in the bridal party. I kinda side with your Future Sister-In-Law, black is not a bride’s color and not by any means a faux pas… You suggested that immediate family not wear black and thats all that you can do..you really shouldn’t try to force her or coerce her into changing her dress. 

Post # 8
1741 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissKabers:  At this point, I would let it go.  You have already made your preference known to Future Sister-In-Law, and she has chosen to go ahead and wear black.  Asking her again will only make your Fiance feel worse when Future Sister-In-Law refuses.

I understand why you don’t want family members to wear black, but I wouldn’t worry about it too much.  The brides will stand out no matter what anyone else is wearing!

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