(Closed) Family Wedding Drama…. Need helpvent

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Though I hear what you’re saying about doing it because she’s your sister, it doesn’t sound like that statement necessarily has the same meaning as it would in another context.  If your sister were to say to do, will you be in my bridal party?  It would be meaningful to have you there.  OR, even ASKING you at all, as opposed to saying you can if you want if you order an expensive dress you don’t like in a short period of time.  Though, it was more that she threw the idea out there as a possible, “if you want to” sort of thing, which I think takes away sisterly obligation.

It sounds like this is a situation where it’s okay to say no.  And at the rate she’s going, it sounds like the dress may end up being a waste anyway.  (As would the amount of money spent on it).  

Post # 5
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10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m an only child so I don’t get the whole “sibling thing” but I would not agree to be a bridesmaid. You’re right, she’s just looking to fill a spot. Two days notice to purchase a dress is ridiculous. If she was serious about wanting you to be a bridesmaid then she shouldn’t have a problem with paying for the dress herself and letting you pay her for it when you have the money (whether that be next week or in a few months from now). 

She didn’t tell you where or when the wedding is? Um… I would want to get some kind of proof that this shindig is actually happening. She sounds crazy. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee

Let’s see –

– you don’t trust her

– sounds like you don’t like her

– date of wedding unknown

– buy expensive dress you don’t like within two days

WHY would you allow yourself to even think about actually doing this? Maybe if she comes up with a date and some plans that indicate a wedding is really scheduled you might consider it, tho I don’t know why. But for now I question there will really be a wedding.

If she wants you tell he she will need to buy the dress as you’re broke. Then you’re only out your time.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

If she has no job and can’t afford the cost of your dress then how is she affording the cost of a wedding?

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