- 10 years ago
My sister in law (husband’s sister) is getting married in a few months. Last week I received an invitation to look at the couple’s wedding site. This is a destination wedding so nothing too traditional probably small in size. In it was a link for family pics, friends pics, wedding party. My husband and I had no idea that the couple had picked their wedding party. So, I was kind of taken back that I find out on facebook of all places about their complete wedding plans. I thought I had a great relationship with my sister in law but maybe that was my perception. Needless to say I wasn’t included in the wedding party but my other sister in law who lives much closer to her was. The party is small 3 bridesmates which include the moh Bride’s best friend, the sister in law and junior bridesmate who is her new to be stepdaughter. I have to say even though I can care less about being a bridesmate my feelings were hurt that I find out from facebook about these complete wedding plans when a week ago they claimed nothing was planned yet. I just felt that my husband and I were singled out we do live in a different state true but still singled out, snubed, offended and HURT on my part.
I decided to confront the bride about it and she was very appologetic and said but you weren’t the only one that was left out we could only pick 3 people and 2 of my thoer friends were left out as well. I thought I was family as for what that is worth it ranks higher since she obviouly picked based on a ranking system. My question is do I have the right to be upset, hurt, feel snubbed or am I out of line to put her on the spot afterall it is her wedding day. But doesn’t RESPECT count for anything?