Family wedding set one day before when we planned

posted 10 months ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

shockedbee :  your SO is unwilling to do what? 

Words of wisdom- they’re not getting married on the date you want, you’re not having any family or friends at your elopement anyway so this is a non-issue. 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

shockedbee :  lol. well you’re not even engaged yet . Could he be using this as an excuse not to propose/get married?

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper

shockedbee :  This makes no sense. Send him here, we’ll set him straight.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper

shockedbee :  I could MAYBE KINDA see his point a LITTLE BIT if your date was the day before theirs. But it’s the day after. It’s a non-issue. He cray.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2020

Would he be willing if you got married on your date but didn’t announce it for a couple of weeks? That way they still get ‘their time’ or whatever?

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

When  you say elopement style do you mean small intimate wedding, or actual elopment? And is this other wedding in Australia or Canada? If you are doing a traditional elopment, I don’t get why you still can’t do it. But if its a small, intimate wedding, i udnerstand two weddings back to back would be difficult. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Ok but if you’re eloping, what’s wrong with April 2019?

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

I’d kinda say that marrying on earlier date is stealing his sisters families thunder to be honest.

To be engaged second then marry first and announce the elopement right before hers?

I’d rather marry y the day after … no one knows till you announce it later. 

 

I mean its a stretch but most Bees here post complaining about people that are engaged second married first that seems to be the raised eyebrows occasion…. might tell your SO that 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

If you’re eloping, then licensing and programs probably shouldn’t matter. But ultimately decides what matters most… the day, the year or his program completion. Then pick a day once engaged.

Post # 29
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Buzzing Beekeeper

shockedbee :  If the family is going to be this upset by you eloping a day after the wedding of a non-family member half way around the world then have you considered what their reaction to not being invited to your wedding is going to be? Because if this date th8ng is such a big deal I hardly think they are going to ge ok with an elopement.

Honestly tell no one and get married in secret on the date you want and then announce later. I hardly think that someone so far removed from you would actually care when you got married unless you have some kind of history of being competitive with this other bride that you aren’t telling us about. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I think it would be ridiculous for anyone to complain about you getting married on your anniversary. When you get married, you get one day, and that’s it. You can get married any of the other 364 days of the year, including the day before and the day after. 

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