Fancier Invitations= More $$$$ From Guests???

posted 2 months ago in Paper
Post # 16
114 posts
Blushing bee

i gIve the same ammount for textmessage invite and fancypants paper

Post # 17
185 posts
Blushing bee

No way, I base mine on my relationship with the couple. I very seldom remember invites in all honesty 

Post # 18
1163 posts
Bumble bee

kw617 :  Ya, but at that point I’d think “ok they obviously don’t need money and if they do, they’re not making very wise spending choices”.

Post # 19
2453 posts
Buzzing bee

Hahahahahahaha.  No.

Post # 20
930 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

No, the perceived price of your invitation does not factor into a guest’s decision for how much they’ll gift. Don’t waste money on fancy invitations in hopes of a larger gift, because all it will do is increase the budget you allocate for invites. The only possible thing someone might glean from your invitation is the elegance of the event and how they should dress, but even that is mostly judged by venue type and ceremony and reception time of day.

Post # 21
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

There is no correlation between this. People will give what they want/can regarless of the invitation. I’d never give a loved one less money because their invitation wasn’t fancy. I also wouldn’t give them more if it was.

Post # 22
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

It does let guests know the tone of your wedding and is the first the will see of the style, etc. But no, that does not equal more money as gifts. At all.

Post # 23
1389 posts
Bumble bee

I base our gift on how much we have to spend travelling to the wedding. 

Post # 24
12899 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Invitations dictate the formality event — so more formal invites dictate a more formal or elegant affair.  That has no bearing on how much a guest gifts, though.

Post # 25
2799 posts
Sugar bee

Your invite does set the tone for your wedding, but that does not always equate to the gifts that you’ll get. I would disregard your friend =\

Post # 26
4798 posts
Honey bee

marblequeen25 :  the invitations DO set the stage for the fanciness level of the event, but that doesn’t mean squat when it comes to how much gift money you will get. I would be confused if a vistaprint invite that claimed to be for a black-tie affair just as I would be equally confused by an engraved invite for a backyard BBQ. 

Post # 27
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I give based on my relationship to the couple.  Sometimes I also consider the amount they gave at our wedding, if that applies.  I also sometimes give less if I am only invited to part of the affair, such as only the ceremony or only the reception.  I had one friend who crowd-funded her elopement, (kind of tacky in my opinion, but she is my friend so whatever) and I donated about half of what I would have given as a gift if she invited me to her wedding. 

Post # 28
7896 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2016

Fancy invitations say to me “I have extra money to waste on paper” so you’re getting less from me.

Write your invitations on some pieces of a cut up Cheez-It’s box and I’ll pull out the big bucks.

Post # 29
118 posts
Blushing bee

I get what your friend it saying. There are people who gift to “cover their plate.” If the invitation indicates the tone or fanciness of the wedding then it makes sense that it would cost more to cover the plate so guests would gift more.

I don’t follow the cover your plate rule because I think it implies gifting people more money based on how much they spend on their wedding. I don’t think I should gift one person more money than another because they chose to have a more expensive wedding so the invitation quality would have no bearing on what I gift.

Post # 30
8298 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

i mean… is it an elegant affair?  the last thing you want is someone dressing up for and giving a gift as if you are having a black tie affair.. and then it’s a backyard bbq.  

I personally just give you a gift based on how close I am to you.

I do have at least one friend who brings blank checks to weddings to figure out how much to give based on the food! 😮

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