(Closed) fantasy of proposal set me up for disappointment

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1848 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I know this is a weird question, but what’s your sign?

How long have you been waiting? I know waiting is different for every bee.

(((hugs))) I know I’m on the “other side” now, but I was with you guys two days ago. It’s HARD waiting. No one knows how hard until they have to wait. I was just like you. It was extremely hard not to get my hopes up, my whole family and bunch of friends just wanted me to have a ring already, and everyday felt ridiculously long.

What I do have to tell you, however, is that it’s going to happen for you. Sooner than you think. When it does happen, you’re going to wonder just why it felt so horrible waiting. If I could have stopped being such a brat last month and just breathed, I would have. I didn’t know it was coming and it is something I regret.

You’re in a seemingly good relationship. he loves you and you love him. It’s going to happen. I used to hear Bees say, “It’s SO worth it in the end” and I used to think easy for them to say. Seriously…it’s the truth. When your moment comes, it will blind you with happiness. You just have to wait just a liiiiiiiittle longer. If you’ve spoken and made a timeline, trust him.

Post # 4
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4575 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Oh how long have you been waiting?  I used to do the same thing too until one day when less expected he proposed.  Hang in there, if he knows how you feel and you know he wants it too, then its gonna happen when you less expect it.

Post # 5
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70 posts
Worker bee

Awe, your time will come! It really will happen!

Waiting is so hard during the holidays. There are tons of jewelry commercials, other people getting engaged left and right, and then friends and family making little comments to get your hopes up. 

I’m in a similar boat, and I *knew* it wasn’t going to happen but it didn’t stop me from analyzing every little thing that happened over the holidays and second guessing myself. I cried like a big jerk when I didn’t get my ring on Christmas and SO felt bad and told me it was coming but it wouldn’t happen by NYE, so he didn’t want me to get my hopes up! 

Post # 8
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1848 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@beth276:  The reason why I ask is because I wanted to know what temperament you’re coming from. Aries people are people of action and once they get their brains wrapped around something…whoa! Haha. I love Aries people when I go out to party. Fun people.

It WILL come soon! That feeling of it will never come is not true. You will have your moment!

Post # 10
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Hey – it’s OKAY to feel everything you are feeling.  That’s why the Bee is pretty awesome…lots of women who have been there/are there. 

I remember not too long ago I was in your shoes.  Except it was my b-day and my Boyfriend or Best Friend (now FI) was taking me to a fancy hotel.  Everyone kept saying “He’s going to propose” so I foolishly got my hopes up.  Of course he didn’t – and instead I got a bike.  Imagine my disappointment. 

It’s so hard when people keep asking when is it going to happen or telling you that it will.  LOL – the only person that knows is your bf.  Until then just keep your spirits high and keep a smile on your face.  We are here for you!

 

Post # 14
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1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Are we waiting twins? SO and I have been together 2 years and 7 months and I KNEW it wasn’t happening over the holiday.  But nevertheless people told me it would happen and I got my hopes up.  So I got sheets for Christmas, and on New Year’s Eve we had already fallen asleep at the stroke of midnight.  Waiting is really hard, especially during the holidays.  Just remember that you aren’t alone!  We can do this! 🙂

Post # 16
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1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@beth276:  This time of year is rough for sure.  I don’t want to watch anything on TV with SO lately because of the incessant engagement ring commercials!!  At least the holidays are behind us and we have some exciting things to look forward to! 🙂

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